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[wheresthelight]

Don't get me wrong I expect dp's older kids to come first in his priorities and actively encourage it, but why do I have to play second fiddle to absolutely everything and everyone in his life?

I do more caring for his older kids than either of their parents and get no thanks and yet when I ask for sow thing to alter I get told I hate them and am putting him in the middle.

All I have said is that I am not running them around to some trip on Saturday because we told her it wasn't possible before she booked it and it means that although they are here for the weekend they won't actually see their dad so I really don't see the point in them coming of that is the case. Is that so wrong? I am forever reading on here that mum should get priority of sad can't do the care so why do I feel like a bitch for saying no?!

There is no way I could stay with my partner if he let his ex speak to/about me like that, absolutely no chance. I would feel he had no respect for me at all to let anybody speak about me that way, especially when it is undeserved. I hope he speaks to her about it, it's unacceptable.

Reno that is pretty much what I have told him. He obviously didn't want to raise it in front of the kids which I understand and agree with but I have told him that he needs to grow a back bone or he won't have a relationship left to defend

What happened in the end wheres?

Hey fluffy, I did what I had originally planned and took them to a local adventure playground and farmyard. We had a great picnic, had lots of chats, giggles and food and then came home and they had a lovely afternoon in the garden with their dad before he went to work.

I have put dd down and then the dscs and I have made cakes and chocolates for my mum for her birthday!

My DSC are all grown, but there is one who needs to be 'looked after', I have refused to be left with this responsibility on my own, at any time or for any reason! It has caused practical problems on many occasions, but I know it would be hugely stressful for me, so I have stuck to my guns, and it is now an accepted fact in our lives!