court orders

[marmalade32]

I need some advice please. Dp and I want to move . We have a child Each
Whilst my ex is reasonable about dd, his has said she will stop him seeing their 11 year old ds. Purely to try and stop him moving into. I think at 11 she'll have a tough time enforcing that. But dp says she'll poison ds against him.
Anyone with knowledge shall we look at a court order? Anything else feasible ? And how much would it be? I should add they live in the same house because of this and being unable to sell. Separate rooms obviously. Thanks in advance. I'm at the end of my tether with it all. It's heartbreaking nd been going on for months.

I agree that it is a very unhealthy situation at the moment for the child but I also agree that it would be much clearer and better for everyone if your dp moves out into his own apartment first and then in with you further down the line. This will allow him to sort out a proper relationship and contact schedule for his son without involving you and give his son the clarity that has been so blurred with the living arrangements at present. You could then be introduced as a partner and move on from there. 11 is a very vulnerable age and if not careful you could jeopardise your and you dp' s relationship his son. Good luck.

You and your EX have moved on - not living together and have arrangements in place. You are not moving anywhere, there are no changes to your childcare and contact arrangements - stop making out that this is going to affect your EX in anyway shape or form.

Your new DP still lives with his wife, albeit separate bedrooms or so he says!. There are currently no financial arrangements in place, they share a house and bills and are for all respects living as a family. Childcare is as in a normal family - Mum and Dad are in the house at the same time.

You and your DP, have proposed to his EX that

1. he moves out - fair enough
2. paying the bills - can she afford the house on her own, are you about to make her homeless or looking for rented accommodation
3. You want childcare on the days you want and she can suck it up
4. any maintenance in place

His EX is about to have her life implode and you wonder why she might be upset and saying stuff.

Sorry your self absoprtion of what works for you and your new DP, takes no account of his DS and the whole of his life.

If you are the OW then even worse. You say this has been going on for months because they can not sell the house ? the housingmarket has been booming for months - sorry none of this really rings true