taking your stepkids to see YOUR family

[alwaystryingtobeafriend]

So on another thread of mine I had mentioned that dp wanted to take his kids to visit my parents.

I told him no because his kids had been really difficult lately and I didn't want to take them over when they are like that.

The kids have met my parents and rest of my family a few times. My dsd gets on great with my niece too. Or so I thought.

One of the last times we took my dsd to visit dsd accused us of forcing her to be friends with people and adding folk on Facebook(my neice doesn't have Facebook and we have never forced her to be friends with anyone)

DP was rightly hurt when I told him that I didn't want to take kids to visit. But I told him why and I was just being honest. If the kids don't want to go I'm not going to force them and when they have been difficult I'm even more reluctant.

I'm just wondering what others experiences are. Xx

I only object when contact with his new DPs family coincides with Exs weekend to see/have his own DCs.

Then with less than 24 hrs notice, they can not come, doing something, tranlsation not enough room in the car.

Ironically, the one Xmas Day they have had with EX, they got one present each and their present from their Dad and I. Her DCs were showered with presents. eldest DC said, Mum her step mum was really nice to us - but no one else!

in our set up it is used to deny access.