I have a question...

[sum41sbombette]

I was wondering if anyone can help with this, as I dont really know where to find the answer lol.

If I was to marry someone whos not the father of my dd, would he be able to adopt her? And if he was, would we have to get permission from the father for him to be able to do it?

Hi There

You do by law have to have the written concent from the birth father cause you were married...

Does the "Birth" Father have any contact?

Regards PR are you married to your new partner?

I have some knowledge of these subjects as I have recently been in this situation.

I am happy to share my experiences as I feel that this is a grey area within the law...

Regards

The birth father has no contact.
I am not married at present but will be next year.
We want my new partner to adopt my daughter in the long term but know that a. we need to be married and b. i have to adopt her as well.....
so i thought a PR would be an option, as my new partner does not feel he has any rights where my daughter is concerned.
I though i was able to call my daughter whatever surname i wanted as long as my ex husband didnt know, i had read somewhere that i could ask the school she attends to call her by whatever name i want, is this not the case?
My daughter has not started school yet but i did want all this sorted out by then to avoid confusion.

As your former husband has no contact, then it is unlikely he would know that you had changed your daughter's name. However, if he did find out, he could apply to the courts to prevent this and might well succeed. But it doesn't sound as if he would bother, frankly. With adoption, his opinion/consent would be sought. Do you think he would care? Given he has no contact, I think it is very likely your new husband would be given PR, but IMO it really makes very little practical difference as you can 'devolve' your PR to whoever you want for, say, taking your daughter to the doctor etc.

system, Its my understanding that you have to be married before PR can be given to your new partner (I could be wrong) .... My ex doesn't have anthing to do with our two children but when it came to it (think its a male thing) kicked back at us and gave us a really hard time.. We are in the middle of adoption only in our area there is at least a 3 years wait to get a social worker... (again you have to be married at least a year to proceed with adoption).. My ex has agreed to adoption BUT since the wait for a social worker he has started contacting my daughters school etc.. demanding PR rights etc.. and yet never wanted to know before..

We have had all checks ie back ground checks and are now only waiting for the social worker and court dates...

I would advise that if you do want adoption get through it as far as you can without the knowlege of your ex.. cause it would save you alot of pain if he start fighting you...

It looks like my ex is going to start being a pain in the a**e just for the hell of it til the adoption is complete.....

As far as your daughter - If the court find out you have changed it you will get in a lot of trouble and it would be heart breaking for your daughter to have to change back again...

How long has your ex had no contact?

You can have a name to be known as at school and your Birth Name yes that is true...

I know what you mean about trying to sort out before they go to school....

My oldest daughter only started in Sep 2004 and trust me... It is better to try and sort out before as we have a hard time with it all and my daughter was confused about her name,,,,

But you can get around the name thing if you use your head ;-)

regards Betty xx