And so it begins

[TheJingleMumsRush]

Stress, house trashed and eggshells. The joys of SP. Who has the wine ð???

that should say she is the rp

We were never allowed to ask DSS to tidy up during access weekends, DH thought he would be traumatised by such a request, as surely an 18 yr old is too young to make his bed, flush the loo and empty the water out of his bath ......

I don't miss those days!

Needa I put up with her by having very very little to do with her in person, she's not seen ds for 5 months and whilst this annoys me on behalf if ds who won't understand when he's older, I am thankful that the poisonous b*tch won't be having an influence on him. It's not so much ds she didlikes, I think that fact that I dared have a ds at all as dp had children and there my life should stop as should my desire to have children. The ridiculous thing is my dsc have accepted me and now ds better than she has and be some teething problems don't feel left out or hard done by, it's like she's actively trying to create the feeling. (She is also very very close to the ex, who is unhappy with me having my ds and comstantly after more money etc. which she reckons is ds fault she's not getting more off, csa dropped her money by £39 a month so not massively reduced)

She usually says hello to him, then present and cooing time for the dsc and ds sort of just sits watching it all or comes over to me for cuddles (bit shy around new people) then usually will take older too to the park but said to dp not having ds left at home whilst they go off to park as he's older and likes it there, dp has assured me that he'll take him. None of its ds fault but seems to be the scapegoat for everything that sil disapproves of in regards to dp and his ex splitting.

oh tell me about it....our DS doesnt want to go see DSD's to deliver their presents tonight, he hasnt seen them for about 8-9 months, they dont bother with us, forgot his birthday all very egg shells here with hubby as he doesnt get it but hey cant upset the DSD's but Im not forcing our DS to go dont see why I should. But I will be the bad one yet again - had enough now been going on like this for over 5-6 years enoughs enough

The irony is her two kids have different dads but it's different as first one was when she was very young and not a serious relationship hula I wouldn't force my ds either, don't understand this double standard where dsc can behave how they wish and second family dc should not only accept it but bend over backwards to accommodate it. Part of being a good parent split or otherwise is teaching your child manners and how to behave which so many NPR will never do out if fear of being bad guy

hows it going themrmen? DH did his rightful thing and took his christmas pressies - all I got from him was yes all went ok. One DSS wasnt there but at work but just looked at her Twitter and she put "So glad I wasnt there when my Dad came today he;s not spoiling my christmas again lol bye!!!!

Havent said anything as I would be the nasty bad one once again...

What a horrible message on twitter, I take your ds didn't go? It was ok, as well as can expected dsc were all ok (with the exception on dss eating my ds advent calendar, not so bad at his age as he has no idea but he got told off by my dp) sil ce round with 4 overflowing bags of presents for dsc and a small bag with 5 pressies for ex, my ds got a t-shirt which is too small and obviously me and dp got nothing. Bought her a bottle of pink bubbles which I didn't bother giving to her ands and dp drank that evening. Me and dp had a long chat tho as I think he even realised how differently she treats our ds, he's promised to talk to her in new year, so fingers crossed

gosh last year there were worse messages I dont say anymore just browse them now and again DH would still turn a blind eye, totally in denial. One DSD did call christmas day afternoon I was ill and was at home DH and DS out and it was very sulky tone of hello, oh ok, no happy christmas or anything so obvious she had been told to call. Im done with them no putting anymore effort into this DH can have his own relationship of sorts with them

Is this thread still open for random rants?

I won't start in detail as I may not stop but I do just need to do this......

AAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!?!

Thank you. That's better already

Here you go meridian

Thank you.... It's dissipating. I should feel more sane in a day or two....