Do you put pictures of your step children on Facebook?

[quirkycutekitch]

And if you do how long were you with your DP before you did? Did you check with the ex if it was to do so? Just wondering what the consensus is!

Yes.
We've been together 12 years married for 5 and I would guess began putting pics on when I began using fb maybe 4 years ago.
No, I didn't ask permission except from dh.

I do, I started 7 months after meeting DSS because his family members like grandparents all added me on Facebook and it was a good way of getting pictures to them (OH never goes on his Facebook).

I was a bit clueless about step parenting etiquette (if there is such a thing) back then and in retrospect it was a high risk thing to do for conflict, but I guess I just didn't think about it because I was quite young and didn't have my own DC at the time. As things went on though I noticed that DSS' mum's partner also uploaded pictures with him in and I have ended up having quite a friendly relationship with DSS' mum over time so it didn't really matter.

I am happy to upload pictures with him in which are from, say, events which I would want to put the pictures on Facebook anyway (I recently uploaded pictures with him in from my birthday, for instance), but I would not just upload pictures solely OF DSS in a "look at this lovely child" kind of way because that is a bit creepy, I would not want someone to do that with pictures of my DC.

Yep, like others I checked with DP but not DSDs DM. Although I know she posts pics of DSD so assume she wouldn't mind.

What about the reverse? Has anyone successfully dealt with that?

What if your (most likely teen) DSC post pictures of you, or of your DCs (their stepsibs). Particularly when you (and your DCs other parent) have an agreement that no pictures will be posted online?

What if they expose your family via social media in other ways?

My young teen DSD posted my full address on her FB wall years ago (before DH and I lived together). DHs attempts to have her remove it were undermined by her Mum. Eventually, i reported it to FB for deletion.
It's one of the reasons I haven't blocked her on FB - at least I know what she's posting about me, even though she's not talking to me!

I now ask SS!
His dad had posted something (he regularly does) and SS was asking who could see it etc. as he has recently become more aware of Internet safety.
I have explained my privacy settings, show him the photo and any caption and ask if he is okay with it.
Even if his dad's fine with it he should be too!

I think asking (as long as ex is a reasonable sort) is a small thing that would go some way towards building trust and acceptance. I would like to be asked and would probably grind my teeth a bit if I wasn't but not enough to make a scene about it.

Interesting thread.
Am assuming everyone would get permission from the DC themselves as well as their parents. I mention this as my teens hate me posting photos of them and I would never do so without running it past them first. I'd be pretty appalled if anyone else posted pictures of them without their permission. I wouldn't dream of posting pictures of someone else's children without consent.

I post pictures of dsd, I have a group shot of all our children as my cover photo.

I used to tag dp and his ex in all photos of dsd but I no longer have her on facebook. I avoid all contact with dps family and she is very close to them so she got blocked along with them.

My dss has posted pics of my son (his brother, he never refers to him as half brother) and I don't mind, :)

The first pics I ever put on facebook of DSC were our wedding pics, and the same for DH with my DS.
We had been together for about 4&1/2 years before that.
I'm not one for posting pics of every day out we have etc, I just post the odd one now and then when I get a particularly lovely pic of my kids. But I've just always felt that DSC aren't mine to show off.

I remember seeing a 'friend' changing her profile pic to a happy family pic of her, her boyfriend and his children. Admittedly it was a beautiful picture but their Mum had said she didn't even want the children to meet his new girlfriend at that point.
It made my blood boil, I felt so sorry for their Mum. Mum and Dad had only been split up 5 mins and the next thing she knows there's somebody else playing happy families with her children and showing it off to everybody on facebook.

There's been a few times when DSC have done really funny things and I've nearly put it on facebook but I know their Mum spies on me and she logs on to DSD's account so she can see my profile. No doubt I'd just be accused of making fun of them or picking on them or something ridiculous so I just say nothing about them at all.