I can't believe the bloody cheek!

[PajamaQueen]

I'm not one to rant normally as I try and keep a level head and detach before I do get too involved but I just can't believe the bloody cheek!

DH has 2 DC with his ex. He pays maintenance, half school trips, dinner money, etc. He pays completely for one of his DC to do an after school activity also. One of our DC also does an after school activity - ballet. Her fees are paid termly and she absolutely loves it. She's really grown in confidence since doing it and has made some good friends from outside school. DSC's mum has informed DH that DC1 wants to do a second after school activity and she wants him to pay for it as she can't afford it and he "is their dad."

DH's response was along the lines of that while he can understand how much DSC1 wants to do another activity he already pays for one and can't really afford to pay for a second. Mum answered back with "Maybe if you stopped sending DD to ballet you could afford it."

I just can't believe the cheek! There is no way I am stopping DD doing something she loves just so DSC can do a second activity. If she doesn't like it maybe she should bloody fund the second choice as she doesn't contribute to the first anyway!

I just can't believe she has the audacity to suggest stopping one of his children doing something she loves so another one of his children can take up a second hobby.

Good for you dh pajama!!! That is excellent of him and bloody hilarious of the ex.

My dp's ex tried to make him pay for a club residential over the summer claiming it was agreed in the mediation til dp pointed out that school trips were agreed as extras but clubs and their associated costs was what he paid her over the csa maintenance amounts were

OMG - some shocking stories on here!

shocking stories - really!

My Ex pays maintenance, is it anywhere near what the CSA would calculate - no. Does it cover his share of the cost of bringing up 2 DCs - does it heck.

His new DP and her 2 DCs - take priority. Let's see - his 2 DCS not going on holiday with them because can not afford to take them all and where she goes - hers go -despite her EX doing 50-50 and paying maintenance of £800 pcm, birthday presents - bought from Aldi for his 2 DCS, hers got new bikes paid for by him, oh forgot to mention he took the cost of their presents out of the monthly maintenance, she thinks I should pay for my DCS to go on holiday with them - because I earn enough.
Contact - stopped whenever she has to do something with her DCs that his would not be welcome to - eg, trip to theme park. She wants to know what I earn because does not see why he should have to pay anything - when I earn enough - darling go swivel on that one!

Maintenance reduced for his own DCS because she has two, has maintenance paid regularly by her own EX - it sucks on both sides of the fence.

Do agree OP - your daughter should not stop ballet lessons for hers to do another.

Wow whatever your ex is proper under the thumb of the new dp!!

As the new dp i would never begrudge my dsc's having money spent on them but it does piss me off when dp pays over and above what he should and then pays for clothes etc here because she won't send any or if she does they simply aren't fit for anything other than the garden. The kids do clubs with us that we (me mostly) pay for Inc any residential that she refuses to contribute to which is why dp put his foot down over the one she wanted him to pay full amount of.

I wouldn't stop them doing their current clubs just so our joint dd could do extra butvi also wouldn't stop dd doing something just because she wants dsc's to be doing more ckubs

Whatever, your ex sounds like a dick. He should be ashamed, though what his dp gets in cb is between her and her ex. That's not the problem, you twat of an ex is the problem.