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I think I'm going to give up

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 09:15

Not happy and need to leave. Only my DH says he can't go as he can't afford a hotel and needs to keep business running (from home) so I need to go. I don't have anywhere, no family with room enough for my ds and I. So what do I do? I'm a home owner so can't get evicted? Can anyone help?

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FeelingTheFire · 09/01/2014 09:28

I'm so sorry Mumsrush that your feeling like this. Does he have any family he could stay with - even just for a few days to give you breathing space.

Is there any chance you could see things differently after being apart for a few days?

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 09:34

Done that, always goes back to the same old arguments. I do love him but just I'm worn out by it all. Everything is a row, so many subjects I can't bring up. Today's was asking if my son could stay in his room at night when the dsc are here now that he is sleeping through the night.

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Morgause · 09/01/2014 09:36

He'll have to afford to go. You and your DC need the house more than he does.

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 09:38

But I'm not working at the mo so I can't afford it either.

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 09:39

Just looked at WA, that sight seems to be for women suffering from DA.

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TaraLott · 09/01/2014 09:39

Not quite with you, is your DS his son too and does he (DS) have his own bedroom?

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 09:40

Yes, he's our ds. When the dsc are here our ds goes in the travle cot in our room (we have a 2 bed place)

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TaraLott · 09/01/2014 09:41

So he wants them to share a room now that he's sleeping through?

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 09:43

No, I do. It's his room and dh said ds can go back once he is sleeping through (not that he ever disturbed the dsc, they could sleep through a house alarm!)

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JeanSeberg · 09/01/2014 09:46

Is the house in your joint names?

TaraLott · 09/01/2014 09:46

Sorry, still not with you (thick), your DH wants your DS to stay in your room and not share with the dsc?

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 09:46

Yes

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 09:48

Any yes, Tara.

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 09:48

*and

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 09:57

If I was able to get help with housing, will it only be in the area that I live in? I'd like to be near family

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Viviennemary · 09/01/2014 09:58

Well how can your DH run a business and earn a living if he works from home if he leaves his home. He can't. Do you own your home jointly. This is still not clear. How many children are in your house?

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 10:02

I know he can't, we own it jointly but it's his money that pays for everything. We have one dc, he has 2 more from a previous who stay eow. It's a 2 bed place.

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 10:06

But if I go, he says that will cost him as well

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JeanSeberg · 09/01/2014 10:06

If he can't move out then what are your options? Do you work? Can you rent somewhere?

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 10:07

I was hoping you guys could give me options as, no, I don't work yet

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Viviennemary · 09/01/2014 10:13

It depends on what you think is causing the problems before you can work out a solution. Is it caused by overcrowding. Two bedrooms and three children is difficult. If you are arguing a lot why are you arguing. Have you got money problems. There aren't really magical solutions that I can think of. And the two step children what will happen to them. Will they stay with you.

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 10:17

It's a mix of money, space (but only eow) and the problems of blended family's. The dsc would not need to stay with me. They would go wherever their dad is for contact. They live with their mum.

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FeelingTheFire · 09/01/2014 10:23

Mums - is couple's counselling an option?

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 10:24

I suggested that but he won't do it, said I'm welcome to get help on my own

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TheMumsRush · 09/01/2014 10:26

I'm not worried to save the relationship anymore. To much shit with too little reward. I'm gonna die one day and I don't want to look back and think 'what a waste'

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