Face to face with DHs ex

[FrogStarandRoses]

Does anyone else get the wobbles when coming face to face with their DH ex?

I've got all the classic symptoms; sweaty palms, butterflies, weak bladder - all because she and I will be in the same court lobby for a few hours. We won't have to interact at all - but just being near her is enough to get my heart pounding.

We've only spoken about 4 times on the phone, and she's only ever initiated one hostile, verbal attack on me directly.

Lots of rescue remedy, deep breaths and happy thoughts!

I'm the xp and I feel like this about my xp's dp. She really doesn't like me lol. I've tried to be nice as frankly she's the nicest gf he's had and dd likes her very much: but I don't think it's reciprocated. The first time we met she refused to shake my hand (formal I know but I was nervous) because she thought she might have an allergic reaction from me
The thing is whenever I see her, I see her anxiety. I just tell myself not to worry, her opinion / fear of me will be partially based in things that xp has said about me and I'm sure that's true on both sides in most cases.

We have no problems with DHs ex because we have DSS a lot - Fri-Sun every other weekend and all of each half term and at least half of all other holidays, and pay child support regularly.

Um, I hope you're not suggesting that the reason for any problems between RMums and NRDads/stepmums is because they don't have the DCs often and fail to pay regularly?

I'm sure that's not what you meant; but just to highlight it is my DHs desire to have any contact with his DCs that is causing the conflict between him and his ex!