There is so much special you share with your own flesh and blood it is a very precious thing!
Much as I'd like the same to be true between my own kids and hers, it's hard to see it as a comparison between two sets of ideals.
My kids eat well, do well at school, one's at uni the other on the way. Both rounded kids I love to be around them for their perspective and their insight into their own world.
My partners kids are so different, take the oldest one getting on for 16 and she has some sort of crisis if she's near a calorie or away from a reflective surface for more than five minutes or nobody mentions how she looks.
I find this really difficult, my own daughter is a good looking girl. She doesn't do the plaster work and she looks like a naturally good looking girl. I can't look at my DP s daughter with layers of foundation on and know who she is under there.
I have no idea what makes her tick, scarily it seems to be vanity and her school circle seems to be changing to reflect that. She seems to be in some kind of fantasy world where she will become a footballers wife, or famous hanger on.
She has no idea of the reality of professional football or the small town where we live.
She's doing ok st school, capable of so much more but has her plan all ready so no need for be an individual when she can reach the giddy heights of non stardom to which she aspires.
Is there any smell the coffee cure? Other than her sister showing her how it shoul be done?