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Happy Mothers Day

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bomsback · 18/03/2012 15:23

I know there are a few of us who did get some kind of recognition today but I thought I'd start a thread to say "Happy Mother's Day" to myself and to all those of you who pretend to be Mum all year round - yet who remain as invisible and underapprecited as every other shitty day of the year.

Well done and thank you for showing children that aren't yours as much love as you do your own even when they make it very difficult. Thank you for wiping noses, clearing up sick, buying new uniforms, washing, ironing, cooking, cleaning, providing shoulders to cry on, losing nights of sleep through worry, put plasters on cuts, playing hairdressers, accompanying SD's on evening runs when you're shattered, taxi driving, catering for groups of teenagers with 10 minutes notice, reminding their dad about parent's evening, homework, to realise when their children need extra support and generally enabling them to be a good Dad etc etc etc.....

Have a Wine or two from me.

(Lovely lunch with DD though. Counts blessings Grin)

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ladydeedy · 18/03/2012 15:42

Well said!

Got a card (DH arranged it) and breakfast cooked (by DH).

DSS then went to visit his mum for lunch (a rare visit). He has bought her a card and a box of chocolates.

EverybodyKnows · 18/03/2012 16:19

Hear hear BOM

I feel blessed because all my daughters (bio & step) have said thank you and made me lovely cards, homemade gifts and a fab fry up in bed!

bomsback · 18/03/2012 16:43

Aww, that's nice.

I dont want to be all woe is me but I've had nothing from DSd.. no card, thank you, text message, meaningful hug, zero.

DD had made me a card and put a little purse together of random trinkets from her room (she's 5 so that's perfect) but when I arrived to fetch her from her Dad's for our mother's day lunch there was a big bouquet of flowers and a Mother's day card (with Mother on it not step-mother) that she and her dad had bought for her step mum! I don't mind as such, she's a wondeful person and I dont have a bed word to say about her.. but come on!!

(bitter)

I'm back from lunch now and DH and I are going for a drink. I'm going to raise a glass to myself. And his poor Mum who sadly isn't with us.

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Newtothisstuff · 18/03/2012 16:45

I've always sent my SM a mothers day card even tho I don't 100% agree with it I go along with it so as not to hurt her feelings

bomsback · 18/03/2012 17:15

That's nice.

I don't reallyagree with a card beng necessary. I mean, it's "Mother's day" a day to celebrate mothers. An of course it depends on the level of involvment the SM has. For example if they are simply SM through marriage and don't really see or care forthe kids then fair cop if no attention is paid.

I dont want a card from DSD. But a small "thank you or everything you do for me and for being around when Mum's not here" would be nice.

Particularly because on father's day her Mum's boyfrined got a lovely gift and card.

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AmberLeaf · 18/03/2012 17:18

I sent my step mum of 30 years one today, but I have to say I didnt feel right about doing it until I was a young adult.

Happy mothers day to you all, I hope you get the recognition you deserve from you SDCs eventually!

Thanks Thanks Thanks

Bonkerz · 18/03/2012 17:18

My dsd is with her mum this weekend but she did ring me and said happy mothers day and that she has a present for me. She is 10 and we have her every weekend and half holidays and I've been her special mummy (what she calls me) for nearly 9 years now.

bomsback · 18/03/2012 17:20

Thanks Amber Grin

That's nice bonkers.

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nenevomito · 18/03/2012 19:41

Happy Mother's Day everyone.

Had a lovely day here. Even the weather was sunny!

Pandygirl · 18/03/2012 19:58

Happy mothers day everyone, I got a card from the hamster (in my DSS handwriting - a proper card from them would cause WW3 to break out, I know they appreciate me).

Did you know next Sunday is stepmums day?

marriednotdead · 18/03/2012 19:58

Happy Mothers Day everyone.
This year is different for us as the DM of my eldest DSKs died recently Sad
Youngest DSS (15) lives with us and usually gives me a card and a hug. Nothing this time and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't hurt. The last 12 months have been hugely challenging (he became a father himself) and the support we've given him has been huge.

He baked his fucking useless mother a cake at school.

Oh well.

balia · 18/03/2012 20:03

Am a bit Blush to be boasting a bit here but I got a mother's day card today (not unusual, DH is good like that) but usually it is only 'signed' by our DS - today it was signed by DSS too. DH said when they were out buying it DSS had insisted he wanted to. (He's nearly 10 - have known him since he was 1)

Happy Mother's Day to everyone.

chelen · 18/03/2012 20:10

Happy Mother's Day everyone. It was a bit of a toughie here today Sad .

brdgrl · 18/03/2012 20:12

Happy Mother's Day!

Last year the DSCs gave me a card, but I think DH suggested it to them. This year, they didn't. That's OK. It would be nice to get a thanks/we love you card, but I'd rather they did it under their own steam or not at all.

I decided recently that I am not going to avoid celebrating Mother's Day myself, with DD, it isn't fair to me or to her! I will just be a bit low-key about it and spend the day out of the house with DD, while encouraging DH to do something nice with the DSCs. So today, DH brought me toast and coffee in bad, with a nice card and a present he'd picked out 'from DD' - I got a gorgeous dress! :) Then DD and I went off to visit a castle and have a yummy lunch and a train trip. It was a beautiful day. :) Tonight we're all going to hang out together and watch some telly.

origamirose · 18/03/2012 20:13

I am definitely WSM today. Got a great deal of pleasure out of helping my DSDs make cards for their Mum. Pleasure because I know that she will like the cards less cause she knows I helped to make them....

mwah ha ha ha ha... off on my broomstick and back to the cauldron

brdgrl · 18/03/2012 20:13

sorry, i posted before i saw your's, chelen. I'm sorry you had a tough one.

brdgrl · 18/03/2012 20:14

origami that made me laugh!

Gay40 · 18/03/2012 20:16

I don't really understand why the fathers of your stepchildren are ignoring your contribution to their children's life? Surely it is up to them to have a hand in the card and gift buying, certainly when they are young.

chelen · 18/03/2012 20:23

Cheers brdgrl . The dress sounds lovely. I got socks from DS/DP - which sounds naff but actually I am a big lover of nice socks so I was content enough.

origami I have absolutely no idea what you mean Wink Grin

brdgrl · 18/03/2012 20:25

gay40, maybe with very small children, yes. But I think I am probably not the only one who doesn't want the DSCs to feel 'pushed' into it...much more than Christmas or my birthday, or any other holiday...this one can be so loaded, for both the kids and the stepmum.

Last year, as I say, the DSCs gave me a nice card. But later a random comment revealed that my DH had suggested it - and I was really disappointed. I know my SCs care a lot for me, and feel real affection (and dare I say it, love) - and they let me know that at other times of the year - but I am not their mother, and so a card today would feel like a bonus, IYSWIM. It would mean so much more to get a card from them in two, or five, or ten years time and feel that they really wanted to express something to me on this day, than to get one every year, because DH was organising it.

brdgrl · 18/03/2012 20:25

socks sound good to me, too. :)

bomsback · 18/03/2012 20:27

Happy for those of you who had a goodun, sad for those of you who didnt. You're right gay the dads should have guided the dsc to do their bit today

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Bonkerz · 19/03/2012 07:07

Well I was very lucky last night. At approximately 8:15pm (dsd bed time is 8) I got a text from dsd (bad girl) just saying that she missed me this weekend and she loves me lots. That means so much!

DharmaBumpkin · 19/03/2012 08:13

I got a card from DSD saying I was better than a Grand Slam... Think that is the best compliment I've ever got!

Hope those who didn't get acknowledged have a better day next year Sad

Jodie33 · 19/03/2012 11:12

I was happy and a little sad this mothers day...
Happy that my DS made me a lovely card at school. Smile Slightly upset as we had a talk sunday morning he said sorry mummy i havent got you a present. He hadnt asked anyone to take him to the shop (he`s 6) but noone had suggested it to him either. Not my OH, DS dad (i wouldnt expect him to!) and my mum is away on holiday. I explained that presents didnt matter we would just have a nice day together, which we did.

Who`s job is it now to help my DS with these things mothers day birthdays xmas etc??

I was a bit miffed at OH bout this yesterday although i didnt say anything as i didnt want an argument. Sad