phone calls EVERY Night?

[MsIngaFewmarbles]

we have week on week off residency for DSD (8). We've had this arrangement for over 3 years now and DSD seems happy. When DH and his ex seperated, they would call each other every night so DSD could speak to whichever parent she wasn't with. DSD was 2.8 at this point.

recently DSD has said thaty she doesn't really want/need to call her Mum every night she's here. Not sure if she's said the same about us, but if she has that's no problem. Her mum called and got really ranty at me (DH was out) last week when DSD had left a message on her home phone, but had refused to call her Mum on the mobile. I got an earful that it wasn't my place to stop her from calling her

anyway, DH suggested to her that maybe DSD should call when she wants to (both us and her Mum) but a minimum of 2x a week. Her Mum reacted really badly and accused DH of trying to take DSD away from her. Obviously the daily calls will continue for now, but does anyone have any ideas? Are daily calls the norm?

I wouldn't suggest anything-there isn't any need to do any weaning.It is up to DSD and her mother. Provide a phone-key in the number to make it simple and leave well alone.

Numbers for DSDs Mum are already in our phone and mobiles so all sorted. We'll see what happens next week. I calle dDH and he literally did the headdesk thing whilst I was telling him about exoticfruits idea. He almost shrieked 'why didn't we think of that?'

Gosh-no one usually thinks me wise!