Would it be wrong to say DSD can't come

[crazykat]

We're supposed to be having DSD over night tomorrow (last minute change again) but her mum wants her back by 10am as she wants DSD to open her presents before they drive over 2 hours to family for christmas dinner. I'll be left with our three DC's aged 3, 2 and 1 for the 40 mins it takes DH to take DSD home while trying to get dinner on for the second year running.

Problem is DH has come down with an aweful virus and has had today off work and hasn't been able to get out of bed which is not like him at all - he usually just gets on with it and goes to work. I don't drive and he's in no fit state to and I don't see him being up to it tomorrow either.

I can't cope with all four on my own along with all the last minute stuff I've got to do tomorrow. Plus I've kept the DC's away from him today as he's not up to having them driving him nuts and he's most likely contagious. If I can't get someone to get DSD tomorrow I know for a fact she won't listen to me if I tell her to stay out of our room and will be in there with DH and he will say she's fine in there but it's not fair on our three when I've not let them in so DH can rest and hopefully be better by sunday yet DSD will be allowed.

Would it be wrong if I say DH isn't well enough for DSD to come and stop - which he isn't. We'll be seeing her boxing day at in-laws and having her overnight which was the original arrangement?

It's the last thing you need, but it's the best place for him, especially if they think it's so serious.. Are you home with the DC?

My parents have been brilliant. My dad's watched the DC's so I could be with DH for a bit today.

I just feel torn, I want to be with the DC's but don't want DH to be alone. He want me to carry on as normal with all the things we'd planned to take the DC's to in the next three days but I just feel like putting everything on hold till he's home.

He's marginally better than last night in that he's not constantly moaning in agony and is less disorientated, his fever is down most of the time. Hopefully by tomorrow they'll know what it is and he can get the treatment he needs.

Hope he continues to improve

Hope his ok, sounds very stressful.

Bloody hell - how scary!! How is he today?

Hi crazycat, just checking in to see how your DH is doing today. Hope you're baring up ok too.

He's pretty much the same as when he was admitted. He hasn't kept any food down since wednesday night and he can't even stand by himself coz of the pain in his head. The only pain relief he's being given at the moment is paracetamol which isn't working.

I'm going to try and get the doctors to realise that he clearly needs something stronger when I go in tomorrow. It's so hard seeing him like this as he's usually so strong.

Crazy, hope so much he will be OK and glad that you have help with the children. Play it by ear as to how much you are with DH or the DC. Hope there's an improvement soon. xx

That sounds awful :( What have they said about the lack of treatment?

Definitely get onto it tomorrow - the squeeky wheel gets the attention!! You can be nice, while being firm.

I hope he is Ok - tis happened to exh he was admitted on a Friday with suspected meningitis - he was shaking so much he couldn't keep still for lumber puncture so they put on notes he refused and basically stuck him in isolation til Monday - it turned out to be pneumonia.

We were young - if I was You I would ask about complaints procedure and start kicking it off they will start treating him them.

The nhs is dreadfully understaffed over Christmas.

The doctors have finally listened and got him codene prescribed for when the paracetamol isn't helping and some anti-emetics for the sickness.

Thankfully he's a bit better today. He's managed to eat something, a few clementines and a banana but it's a start, and he hasn't been sick today. He still looks dreadful but has got some colour back. For a couple of hours his headache eased quite a bit and he was able to talk properly and I even got a couple of laughs out of him. His headache came back but he said it wasn't as bad as yesterday and for the first time I've left him and he was sleeping and not in agony.

It's good to hear he's a bit better. Any diagnosis yet?

glad to hear he is improving

He's home, still not 100% and he's lost loads of weight but he's better than he was. Don't know how long he'll be off work now as he has a very physical job and the doctors don't want him back at work till he's put the weight back on that he lost. It's just so nice to have him home.