If you knew then what you know now.....

[TryingNotToLoseMyTemper]

... would you do it?

Would you get involved with a man with children?

Be honest now.....

I wish all those who want to get involved with a parent would read forums like this, if my xp's gf did maybe she would step back a bit. Its the complete opposite for me as its her everyone tries not to upset and she is intent on controlling me and the children (well dd she doesnt give a hoot about ds) and if I rock the boat by say not being able to swap weekends an hour before im due to drop off or say invite him to parent eve Im an run down online as well as to anyone that will listen!
I so wish my x had gotten involved with one of you lovely step parents, you all seem so much more reasonable and caring! But I totally agree its the adults that are a nightmare not the children, they just want mum and dad to be happy!

I told my DP only this weekend that if I had known how much our relationship was going to affect his DC's then I would have considered things a lot more carefully.

I've come to terms with the fact that DSD (aged 14) has rejected her Dad and me, and will not have anything to do with either of us, but I'm really struggling with the fact that DSS (aged 8) has regressed so much - I am not fond of toddlers and pre-schoolers (I struggled with my own), and currently, DSS behaviour is that of a young 4 year old in many ways.

Yes, I told my DP "if I had known...."

For me it's not the kids that are the problem, it's the ExW.

I love my fella and I love his 2 children with all my heart, they melt my heart every Friday when they run through the door calling my name looking for a cuddle. We are ttc at the moment and it feels like that will bring us more together, I can't wait to give them a little brother or sister.

But her...... her I could cheerfully strangle, if it wasn't for the distress it would cause her kids I'd wish she would just do one. Nothing she does is for the benefit of the kids its all done purely for her own selfish reasons, and she doesn't seem to realise how much they pick up on despite their ages [6 & 4]. She really makes me embarrassed to be female sometimes...

So, even with hindsight, yes I would [but only if the ExW first disappeared in the witch-like puff of blue smoke that befits her]

i am with scarlet i love my dp and would every time... so far. if i could take a contract out on his ex.