Aaarrrrgggghhhhhhhh

[glitzy]

Why does something always have to happen to piss me right off! Not a week goes by with everything going smoothly!

:) Keep them coming... feeling loads better now after gettng it off my chest

love the general term for S/Parenting Tooting

'the general AAARRGGGGGHHH-ness' -

Can I continue Aaarrgggghhhhinggggg every time I get annoyed??

Yes Glitzy permission granted - we understand

• carry on !

< ushers men with stretcher towards Glitzy >

Hi Glitzy. The real issue here seems to be the lack of respect your step-daughter shows you. Oh, and the fact you are 'treated like dirt' in your own home.

I have a 19 year-old-son who treats me like that (waves at this point to Suda - Suda if your little dinner had been at my house, DS would have found it in the fridge and eaten it before it got to the table) and it is absolutely infuriating. I have set some good boundaries recently. It sounds like your DH needs to do the same. I just don't get the attitude of husbands and wives who think it's OK for their other halves to be badly treated by their children.

Meanwhile my step-daughter continues to treat me like dirt (basically acts like I am invisible) but she doesn't live with us so that's OK...

Mmmm I agree nomedoit... it seems quite a common way of behaviour between DH DSK and us wives. Maybe a way of overcompensating for the fact that they split from the kids parents.

All calm in our house after a huge blow up at the weekend (ended up with us both walking out, and her getting more grief off her DM). Ive decided ive had enough of the fighting and am doing my best to keep calm. She seems to be too...will see how long we can keep it up!

Glitzy, is your step-daughter a horrible teen or is it more personal?

In my case, I have the DS (now at uni thank God, I dread the holidays) and my husband is the step-parent. My DS is just awful full-stop. It's not personal. But I do stand behind my DH, I don't have any illusions about DS!

nomedoit

Actually I pre-empty that one - DSS is very fussy eater - I always make sure to get food he doesnt like - or 'spoil' it with an ingredient - e.g. he loves stew but hates onions - sorted ! - onion gravy anyone? [evil]

Of course I do get food he does like aswell - but if ever I dont want him to touch something I know what to get or add to it to ensure its 'safety'!

But what about the pudding, Suda??? In my house I would peel back the foil to find all but a spoonful (the corner bit, he doesn't do crusts) of whatever pud I had cooked gone!

Well yes I have become a professional wicked stepmother Im afraid and I stick to things he doesnt like in the pudding dept also. He hates cream so thats easy enough - can 'spoil' most puds with that ! Also hates anything with fruit especially raisins
currants etc. I do feel really mean sometimes and a bit dismayed at how devious I have become/have to be - though as I have said he's well fed/provided for with things he likes - I dont starve him and I know my own mother and many others would never ever get two things/cook two things for tea -its a case of - 'this is what we're having - end of' - but its survival really as Ive tried everything else so its that or nothings sacred it seems.

sorry meant to add that I do often cook him something different or modified to his taste in a seperate dish etc etc, - its just that he seems to have an inbuilt pathological fear of missing out! Eg - he once asked me if he could have just the chocolate off an eclair (obviously leaving bland choux pastry and cream for me/DH) - he couldnt bear to look at it in the fridge it seems even though he hates cream ! - Er that'll be a NO !

Nomedoit... my stepdaughter is a horrible teen. TBH, when she isnt getting her way, she is just a very unpleasant person to be around. Its sad, because I know the deep inside there is a sweet girl, and she has so much potential, if only she would let go of the attitude and selfishness, and me me me (then again, in the 7 odd years Ive known her, never known her to be involved or start a conversation that isnt all me me me, so maybe im wrong.)

Have you tried labeling food that isnt for the kids? Ive resorted to that before ... and other than that, I hide it!!

Oh I hide it and then can't find it!