Newborn life: Your questions answered by MAM’s midwives - prizes to be won

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This Q&A is now closed. Thanks to everyone who shared a question for Midwives Angie & Zoe. You can see the answers here.

Life with a newborn can be a whirlwind - exhausting, overwhelming, and full of questions. Whether you’re running on zero sleep, figuring out the best way to feed your baby, or wondering if a dummy could be a lifesaver, you’re not alone.

MAM’s expert midwives, Zoe and Angie, will be joining us the week of 5th May to answer your questions on baby care - from newborn essentials to caring for older babies, including weaning and teething.

Post your question by 9th May for a chance to win a £100 VEX voucher. Plus, three runners-up will receive a MAM Welcome to the World Gift Set.

Got questions about…

• Infant feeding - breast, bottle, or a mix of both?
• Sleep and settling - what actually helps?
• Dummies - pros, cons, and whether they might work for your baby?

Ask away! Zoe and Angie are here to share expert advice and help you figure out what works best for you and your little one.
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Meet the midwives:
Midwife Zoe – A mum of three and experienced midwife with a background in homebirth, obstetric-led care, and community midwifery. With over 15 years of experience supporting families, Zoe shares practical, non-judgemental advice that supports families through pregnancy, birth, and early parenthood. She’s also a qualified hypnobirthing teacher, sleep practitioner, and infant feeding specialist, helping parents feel confident and informed every step of the way.

Midwife Angie – A mum, midwife and qualified Health Visitor with experience across birth centres, labour ward, community, maternity wards and specialist midwifery. Angie shares honest, practical advice with parents and professionals on everything from birth to caring for older babies, including weaning and teething. Angie is MAM Baby UK’s consultant midwife alongside her NHS role and social media work.

Hi @HobNobAddict - at nine months old this still sounds really biologically normal (albeit hard - speaking as a mum who had two children who didn't sleep through the night consistently until 22 months old). Sleep is impacted by a number of factors: genetic (what you were like sleeping as a baby), development (periods of growth and development or teething can lead to more disturbed sleep) and environment. Between 70-80% of babies are still waking at least once or twice a night by 1 year, with many waking more frequently than this. The average age developmentally to begin sleeping through is around the age of 2. Introducing food can cause more wake ups than less too, contrary to popular belief as their digestive system is adapting to the new introductions too. I highly recommend Sara Ockwell Smith the gentle sleep book which provides all the evidence for sleep, realistic expectations as well as tips for each month to try to promote sleep. The environment is the one factor you can control, along with comfort if there is any teething too. Having a good bedtime routine in place, considering baby massage before bed, thinking about lights and the same comforts too before bed. Leaning on your partner if you have one or family members for support so you can maximise sleep and take it in turns too.
Angie x

Hi @Cocomelonhauntsme,
The latest evidence highlights using a pacifier does not affect breastfeeding length or duration https://www.cochrane.org/CD007202/PREG_effect-restricted-pacifier-use-duration-breastfeeding-full-term-infants. However, much of the research explores soother use when breastfeeding has established which is important to take into context. In the early days baby's need to feed regularly. If sooothers are used when a baby is making feeding cues, this can potentially lead to missing feeding cues and have an impact on baby's growth and nutritional intake. If using before feeding is established then sticking to nap or sleep times and feeding regularly is key. In relation to soother's vs thumb sucking, many research studies show soothers are easier to wean off than thumbs.
Angie x

Hi @LineofTedLasso!
After a c-section, it’s completely normal to feel a mix of emotions, and the recovery process can take time. Firstly, be kind to yourself, you’ve been through a big surgery, and it’s important to give your body the time it needs to heal. Rest when you can, and don’t feel guilty about needing extra support in those early days. Moving around gently and as much as you feel comfortable can help with circulation and prevent stiffness, but be sure to listen to your body. Keep on top of your pain relief, there’s no need to push through pain. One thing that can really help with recovery is lots of skin-to-skin with your baby, it not only promotes bonding but can also support breastmilk production by helping your body release the right hormones. Responsive feeding is key too, let your baby feed as often as they need, and this will help your milk supply. If you’re feeling uncomfortable with trapped wind (which is really common after a c-section), chewing gum can help stimulate your digestive system and support your bowel’s normal function - so have a pack ready to go when you get into recovery. Support from your partner, family, or friends can really help, especially with household tasks or helping with your baby. When it comes to breastfeeding, don’t worry if it feels tricky in the early days, try to find a comfortable position that doesn’t put pressure on your scar. You could try feeding in a laid-back position or using pillows to prop yourself up. If you need any help with latch or positioning, don’t hesitate to reach out to a midwife or lactation consultant. Most importantly, take things at your own pace. Your body has done an incredible thing, and you deserve all the time and space to heal.
Zoe x

Hi @Sabire9!
Thank you so much for your thoughtful question. I want to reassure you that I’m here to provide unbiased, evidence-based information to support you on your journey, without promoting any products. While MAM does sell items like bottles, breast pumps, and breast pads, my role as a midwife is to offer guidance based on the best available evidence, not to promote specific products. The International Code of Marketing of Breastmilk Substitutes is very important, and we fully support its principles. This means that we do not encourage or endorse the use of breastmilk substitutes over breastfeeding, or introduce bottle feeding in a way that undermines breastfeeding. The advice I share is always rooted in supporting you to make the best decisions for you and your baby, based on your individual needs, without any commercial influence. The goal is always to support you in whatever feeding method works best for your family, with unbiased information to help you feel confident in your choices.
Regarding your second question: Yes, there has been an increase in inductions in recent years, and for some women, this can have an impact on their early breastfeeding experiences. Inductions, especially if they are medically necessary or more intense, can sometimes lead to a longer or more complicated recovery, which may make the early days of breastfeeding feel more challenging. Some women might experience more pain or have difficulty with their baby’s latch in those first feeds, especially if they’ve had a more medicalised birth or needed intervention. That being said, the good news is that with the right support, many women go on to establish successful breastfeeding even after a difficult birth. Here are a few tips to help establish breastfeeding after a challenging birth: Spend as much time as possible with your baby skin-to-skin to promote bonding, feeding cues, and milk production. Feed responsively, offering the breast whenever your baby shows hunger cues, even for comfort, to stimulate milk supply. Find a comfortable position with cushions or pillows, especially if you’re feeling sore. Reach out to your midwife, health visitor, or lactation consultant for support with latch and positioning. And most importantly, be kind to yourself. Breastfeeding may take time to establish, but any amount of breastfeeding is beneficial. Take it one feed at a time and trust your body and baby.
Zoe x

Hi @Asuwere!
It’s really important to take care of yourself, especially in those early weeks when your diet can feel a bit all over the place. To help support your iron and calcium levels, try to focus on nutrient-rich foods when you can, such as leafy greens, nuts, seeds, dairy, or calcium-fortified alternatives, and lean proteins like chicken, beans, and lentils. If you’re struggling to get enough through food, a breastfeeding multivitamin might be helpful too. Hydration is also key, so remember to drink plenty of water throughout the day.
As for your second question, I used to advise, “sleep when the baby sleeps,” but I’ve since stopped. I now really appreciate how difficult that advice can be, especially with the many factors that come with new parenthood, like adjusting to a baby’s needs, housework, or just trying to relax. In those early days, when someone offered to hold my baby so I could rest, I found it surprisingly hard to switch off and actually fall asleep. Now, I’m a huge advocate for resting when you can - even if that’s a quiet cup of tea or a bath while someone else holds the baby. It’s about finding moments for yourself when possible, even if it’s just a few minutes of peace.
Zoe x

Hi @MaltipooMama!
It’s so normal to worry about how your eldest will adjust to a new sibling, especially at such a young age when they don’t quite understand what’s happening. The good news is, there are plenty of ways you can help your little one feel loved, included, and secure during this time. One of the best things you can do is to continue giving them lots of individual attention, even in the midst of newborn chaos. When you’re caring for your baby, involve your toddler in small, age-appropriate tasks, like choosing a blanket for the baby or gently patting the baby’s back. This can help them feel like they’re part of the process. Creating a simple routine where you spend one-on-one time with your toddler, even if it’s just reading a book or playing together, can make a huge difference. Reassure them with lots of cuddles and physical affection, as this helps to ease any feelings of jealousy or confusion. It’s also helpful to explain things simply, even if they don’t fully understand, talk to them about their baby sister and what she’s doing, and allow them to observe and get used to the changes. Remember, there’s no need to put pressure on them to adjust quickly. Allow them the emotional space they need, and trust that things will settle with time. Be patient with the transition, as it’s normal for toddlers to feel a bit unsettled, but with love, reassurance, and time, they’ll find their way.
Zoe x

Hello @BlackWhiteCircle - the glass bottles haven't been discontinued but there are new designs out now in the glass bottle range.
Angie

Hi @DanBenandBud,
Baby sleeping bags are safe to use, and in many countries across the world are preferred to blankets due to being less of a hazard. The important factors to consider when using sleeping bags though are thickness/tog rating and room temperature and the size of the sleeping bag. It is important to use the lowest tog and layers for the time of year based on your room temperature, many brands have helpful guides to guide parents. The sleeping bag needs to fit well around the arms and based on your baby's size and weight which should be on the sizing of the sleeping bag. Also consider more breathable materials like cotton which can help too.
Angie

Hi @littlecottonbud!
When it comes to breastfeeding, the most important thing is to focus on nourishing yourself and meeting your own needs, as this will help you support your baby. There are a few essential items that can help make breastfeeding easier and more comfortable. The top essential is getting good breastfeeding support! If we look at practical things you may want to buy - a supportive nursing pillow can help you get into a comfy position, especially in the early weeks. Comfortable nursing bras and breast pads are a must for comfort and to manage any leakage. A good breast pump can be useful if you want to express milk, but that depends on your personal feeding plan. Hydration is also key, so a water bottle within reach will make it easier to stay hydrated during feeds. In terms of calories, breastfeeding burns additional energy, so you’ll need more than your pre-pregnancy intake. Generally, aiming for around 300–500 extra calories a day is recommended, but it’s really important to listen to your body and eat when you’re hungry. Include plenty of nutrient-dense foods like whole grains, fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and healthy fats. If you’re breastfeeding long-term, don’t forget to take care of your mental health, too, as it’s just as important. Keep things balanced, and trust that your body knows what it needs to keep you and your baby thriving.
Zoe x

Hi @DinkyDaffodil!
I think a lot of new parents will relate to this question. I've had three children, and my youngest is 1. My go-to is to wait until they're asleep so they're less wiggly, good lighting and correct tools for the job (you can buy baby nail clippers/nail files). I often find it's a two-person job with my husband holding the phone light and me trimming the nails. Good luck!
Zoe x

Hello @LittleDeeAndME - the official recommendations is you can have up to 300mg of caffiene in a day when breastfeeding (outside of breastfeeding the daily intake is 400mg maximum recommendation). So yes caffeinated or decaffeinated coffee is allowed - enjoy :)
Angie

Hi @kathrinkate17, it’s completely natural to feel a little overwhelmed by the idea of keeping your baby safe, especially when you're also juggling work and everything else that comes with being a parent. The good news is, child safety doesn't have to be complicated. It’s about taking small, practical steps to create a secure environment for your little one to grow and explore. Things like using an approved car seat, safely setting up their sleep space, keeping small objects and medicines out of reach, and ensuring your home is baby-proofed as they grow are great places to start. Never leave your baby unattended in the bath, even for a moment, as accidents can happen quickly. If your baby will be cared for by someone else while you’re working, take time to talk through routines, safety practices, and feeding preferences to help everyone feel confident and consistent. You can find reliable, up-to-date safety information from trusted sources like the NHS website, The Lullaby Trust, and First Steps Nutrition. Don’t hesitate to speak to your own midwife or health visitor for personalised advice tailored to your situation. Trust your instincts and ask questions if you’re unsure.
Zoe x

Hi @IhateBegonias - colic is hard and I want to send you some virtual support and hope you have a good support network around you. 1 in 5 baby's have colic and whilst it is common, it is challenging. Positively, most baby's will 'grow out of' colic around 3-4 months old. If you are breastfeeding, speak to a lactation consultant, breastfeeding peer supporter, health visitor or midwife. Getting latch, attachment, positioning and an oral assessment (checking for any restrictions or a tongue tie) is key. It may be worth keeping a food diary to see if there are any dietary links between what you are eating and the colic too. If you are bottle feeding or formula feeding, then paced responsive bottle feeding sticking with the slowest flow rate teat and considering anti colic bottles may help. With formula only the first stage infant milk is needed for the first year of life, and nutritionally they are all the same however if you look at the ingredients they all have different allergens. Sometimes switching to an alternative first stage infant milk can help. In addition, ensure you are following the NHS guidance on making up and sterilising bottles. Anecdotally as a health visitor colic would reduce when parents went back to making up feeds this way if they were using any devices. Colic can sometimes be due to an imbalance in the gut bacteria, and making up feeds using NHS guidance can sometimes reduce the symptoms. Baby wearing, baby massage can help too and if there has been any antibiotics either in birth or the postnatal period then some parents find a probiotic can help babies. Trying a range of positions in the colic like tiger in the tree can be useful, as can skin to skin. Finally support for you is key. Lean on family and friends, and there is the CRY-SIS helpline too and support with colic at www.CRY-SIS.org.uk too.
Angie x

Hello @Steph4ne, this may depend on a few factors for you to consider. Firstly time of year, whether the hot weather makes your baby sticky and warm, how many poonamis your baby has, whether you go swimming or undertake certain activities where you may want to bath your baby more frequently, your own personal preference and whether you like it as a routine. Baby's don't need bathing everyday, there is some discussion over whether baby's are bathed too much and yes particularly in harder water areas daily baths for baby's can dry their skin out, and sometimes some bath products can impact on this too. Some parents will bath their baby weekly, but top and tail in between, some will bath 2-3 times a week, others do bath their baby daily as part of a night time routine and their baby is okay. It is about finding what works best for you as a family. If you do bath regularly, consider a mild cleanser suitable for baby's skin.
Angie x

Hi @chickenpotnoodle, in terms of introducing food at 6 months there are two main ways of introducing - either traditional puree's and building up the textures to solids over a number of months, or alternatively baby led weaning. Many parents will do a mixture of both. your baby's main source of nutrition is still from milk whether that is breast or/and formula until they are one. Take it one day at a time. To begin with, starting with one meal and usually by around 9 months old most babies will be on between 2-3 meals a day and then by a year 3 meals and snacks. Offer milk if breastfeeding around 30-60minutes before a meal, and again after food. A range of food is important. If there are any suspected/confirmed allergies then it us usually recommended to introduce one possible allergen a week (i.e eggs one week, then gluten the next etc - to be decided by the parents and their dietician), but if there is nothing suspected then to just embrace the stage of introducing food. Finding your own way is the important bit and there are some brilliant introducing food books too. Enjoy this next stage of parenting.
Angie x

Hello @ketchuporbrownsauce - so sorry you had a granulated episiotomy scar needing surgery. As a starting point even prior to pregnancy I would highly recommend seeing a women's health physio to assess the scar following surgery and provide information and advice regarding scar massage and how to aid the recovery of the scar. Episiotomy's become less common in subsequent babies (first baby is the highest chance), and there can be ways to reduce the chance of an episiotomy in future baby's. Firstly knowing your rights, episiotomy's require your consent and you can say no weighing up the reasons, risks and benefits at the time. There is no evidence perieneal massage helps reduce the chance of tearing or episiotomy in future births, however anecdotally from my own experience some women have found it useful and felt they had more control by having done it in pregnancy. Home birth carries a lower chance of tearing and episiotomy and midwife led centre births. In addition being upright and mobile in labour and the pushing stage can help in baby coming down and reducing the chance of tearing and episiotomy.
Angie

My first baby became seriously ill with dehydration in the first week as my milk didn’t come in. It eventually came in several weeks later. I’m not sure I want to breastfeed my next baby at all after that experience but what’s the best way of making sure they get enough milk in the first week to avoid dehydration again?

Thank you midwifes - very thorough and thoughtful answers.

Missed this tread for a question - but this would have been mine, so thank you.

When would I expect teething to be finished- how many teeth do they actually get?

Hi @FumbleBumbleBee, it's sounds like you're doing beautifully. It's absolutely normal and expected for your newborn to want to be held close all the time. You're not spoiling him or doing any harm by cuddling him lots, in fact, you're meeting a really important need. Holding him upright on your chest, especially with reflux, is a common and completely safe way to help him feel more comfortable. Babies naturally curl their legs up in that froggy position after birth, and this doesn’t harm their hips or legs at all. As long as his head and back are supported and he’s not slumped forward, you’re doing just fine. Some parents in your position find using a sling really helpful to keep baby close while easing the strain on their arms. If you go down that route, just make sure to follow the TICKS babywearing guidelines: Tight (the sling should hold baby snugly and upright), In view at all times (you should always be able to see their face), Close enough to kiss (baby’s head should be high enough for you to kiss easily), Keep chin off the chest (so their airway is clear), and Supported back (so they’re held securely with their tummy and chest against you). The scrunched legs are completely normal at this age, and when in a sling with knees higher than bottom in an M-shape, it actually supports healthy hip development. You're absolutely doing the right thing.
Zoe x

Hello @ConfusedAnxiousMum - I am so sorry to hear of your first feeding journey. As a starting point can you ask to be referred to your local infant feeding team who could support you during pregnancy. They will be able to look through your previous experience and look into whether there was anything underlying last time, and whether anything can be prevented this time depending on any factors from last time. Going along to some support services in your pregnancy locally will also provide you with additional support too. Understanding milk supply, looking out for signs of dehydration and hopefully having early breastfeeding support too in the early days. This is also where antenatal hand expressing to have some milk ready can be beneficial too which may give you some reassurance to give expressed breastmilk after some of the feeds. Regular feeding in those early weeks are really key to establishing milk supply and to prevent problems and ensure baby gets enough. Baby's need a minimum of 8-12 feeds in a 24 hours period from 24 hours old onwards. In those first 24 hours, plenty of skin to skin and hand expressing will help to increase milk. In order to avoid dehydration, there are signs to look out for for effective feeding: comfortable latcha and attachment, hearing swallowing around day 2-5 when the milk begins to transition from colostrum. Looking at nappy output is one of the key ways to know baby is getting enough milk. On day 1, there should be 1 wet nappy, day 2, 2 wet nappies, day 3 3 wet nappies, day 4 4 wet nappies and from day 5 onwards 5-7 wet nappies per day. In addition there should be a minimum of 1-2 poo nappies each day transitioning from black in the first 2-3 days to green and then usually yellow by around day 5-6. Another sign which can indicate dehydration is urates sometimes which look like dark orange spots in the urine. Seeking support is key and calling and asking for midwifery face to face appointments is key if you choose to breastfeed. The national breastfeeding helpline is also a fantastic resource. Finally it is your choice however you feed your baby and whatever you decide will be the right choice for you.
Angie x

Hi @namenomnombre - Most toddlers will have finished teething by around 3 where there is around 20 teeth which have come through.
Angie

WTF are you thinking Mumsnet?

This thread platforms an employee of a company which makes and promotes products for bottle feeding.

The answer to lots of the questions above should be to seek personal advice from a trained lactation consultant - the National.Breastfeeding Helpline is free and available on 0300 100 0212

The midwife above saying "oh no I'm not promoting specific products, my role is to help as a midwife" or words to that effect, is disengenuious. She may not be promoting particular products, but she is here to promote the company. The whole thing is a promotion of the company's name.

I know MN is a commercial company but to platform a promotion that skirts so close to being in breech of a law about marketing formula that exists to protect babies is shameful IMO.

Hi, your glass bottles have been available in your website for 2 months saying they were last chance. They just say out of stock by all the last chance items. They are also no longer in stock in boots/amazon and other retailers? They aren’t sold anywhere old or new design?

Do you know where they are being sold if not by your website?