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[EmmaMumsnet]

Thinking ahead to a time when you will no longer be here is undoubtedly not a pleasant thought. The majority of us plan other big life events such as birthdays, weddings, baby showers and/or anniversaries down to a tee, however when it comes to funerals very few of us have detailed plans in place. If there's something in particular you have in mind, whether it’s something beautiful, something personal, or even something humorous, Co-op Funeralcare would like to know.

Here’s what David Collingwood, Head of Operations for Co-op Funeralcare has to say: “Funerals are very much about personal choice and reflecting the personality and interests of an individual. This is becoming increasingly evident through the growth we’ve seen in people choosing to pre-plan their own ceremonies using a funeral plan.”

Do you have a specific piece of poetry that you want read out by a certain someone? Maybe you’d request that all of your friends and family turn up in fancy dress? Or perhaps you already have in mind a certain song that will put a smile on everyone’s face...Monty Python’s ‘Always Look on the Bright Side of Life’ and Frank Sinatra’s ‘My Way’ are popular songs requested for funerals!

Co-op Funeralcare would like to know what your funeral wishes are, so please share them below and all who comment will be entered into a prize draw, where one lucky MNer will win a £300 voucher or their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck!
MNHQ

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I'm not rest religious so I don't want it in a church.
I've got a song picked out that I would like to be played and that's about it!
Maybe a celebration rather than a service and then a quick graveside thing and job done
Lots of nice cake after and wine!

or Cremation and be scattered perhaps? But I don't want to be left in an urn in someone's cupboard!

Quite simple: a cardboard box at the local natural burial ground, surrounded by my loved ones. Nothing more.

ive told my loved ones to do the cheapest possible for my funeral, theres no point wasting money on me when im dead

Some lovely words spoken by special family & friends, some uplifting music, some humour, a jolly good 'do' afterwards!

I like to think I'm fairly positive, funny & fun to be around so would want my funeral to reflect that

I'd like a church service with 'How great thou art' played followed by my family and friends having a good party dancing to Juicy by Notorious B.I.G

I trust my loved ones to arrange a send off as they choose. They will be financially provided for to pay for a funeral. A big pre- planned funeral event is not for everyone .

I want a Humanist funeral and for it to be as inexpensive as possible. Afterwards though, I'd like everyone to enjoy an open bar, live music and decent food.

I would want to have an 'earth friendly' funeral. I would loved to be turned into a tree so my loved ones could visit and sit underneath it as it grows and not take up space in a cemetery. Whatever way my family wish to say goodbye to me it's up to them, my opinions don't matter in this, they can hold a ceremony in whatever way they wish. It's for them to mourn, not me.

I'd like a simple, short ceremony - a celebratory farewell - I'm sure I won't be far away!
A wicker casket would be ideal - I like the idea of returning to the earth & my body being of some use in a natural sense - I'll have no use for it :)
I'd love there to be a party after - where all my favourite upbeat tunes are played & my family can enjoy being together & hold each other that bit dearer.
Life is short.

Somewhere over the rainbow as my casket goes into the cremator.

I don't want to be too specific because I don't want to choose things that would make them cry.

Definitely want my organs donated and a closed coffin.

Nice drinks at the local pub where we go for Sunday lunch.

I want to be cremated and my ashes scattered somewhere that has a personal connection - favourite place near the coast or the place that we were married.

Would quite like lots of flowers, some uplifting music and for people to wear what they like. I've already told DH that I don't want a 'brown food' buffet, abide with me or anything 'quirky'.

I want my friends and family to have a quick non religious service at a crematorium followed by a big gathering with lots of my favourite music, photos and lots of drinking and laughing. I want people to remember the good times. I've picked my music I want REM end of the world as we know it , Noah and the Whale Life goes on and proclaimers 500 miles played at the service as I hope it will give my loved ones a smile.

I don't want a funeral at all. DD1 is dead and I will mourn her all the days I have left here. Death is rest to me. My only wish is for my ashes to be interred in her plot. There's a headstone in place with room for my name and DH's, but well, if mine's not on there, it won't matter anyway. I'll have peace at last.

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There are no words but I couldn't read that and not send you some love. xxx

Good music-something from Metallica, Ben Folds Five & Steely Dan. No flowers-contributions to animal charities instead (if they wanted to). Vegan buffet. Cheap.

Just lately funeral ads have ramped up since the PPI stuff is winding down. It's getting silly. Some ads on TV, like John Cleese in a grim reaper costume, are down right depressing. I always fast forward them.

I'm leaving my body to the local university hospital, it will be cut up by medical students.

Unless I die on a bank holiday, they only take bodies 9- 5.

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Crem, trad-style secular service, possibly with friend who did my wedding as the celebrant. Simple as possible then a buffet in the local pub.

I've been to a few funerals recently and knowing what to expect followed by some decent food and conviviality helped those most directly affected and was appreciated by everyone else. MrNC agrees it's important to do 'something' and I've assured him I won't care what that is.

I'd love a cardboard casket buried in a woodland.

I have only one stipulation for mine. No fucking Coldplay

I would only ask that my funeral costs little (I don't want my loved ones wasted money on something I'm not even experiencing), and that they do what will make them feel better. I don't actually think my funeral is about me or for me - it serves to help ease the grief for my family so I'd want them to play music that would give them happy memories, or do what ever they need to to give themselves some comfort.

I'd like an eco funeral with an environmentally friendly coffin and be buried in a woodland with a tree to mark my burial place
I'm not religious so I'm not bothered about prayers and hymn but if it helps anyone then they can have what they want, I won't be there so it won't matter to me
I would like lots of black and possibly horses depending on distance to the woodland
I'd definitely like some gloomy music, it would please the goth in me 😀

No religion. People can wear what they want. Some of my favourite music: David Bowie, Jaques Brel. I don't particularly like the idea of bright colours and cheery music; people need to be allowed to be sad and grieve if they wish. Don't really care about burial or cremation, but would like a good wake laid on for everyone.

I'd like to have a lighthearted rememberance service with everyone remebering good times we shared rather than feeling sad, I'd probably choose to be cremated and be scattered in some peaceful woodlands my husband knows two of the songs i'd like played at my service and I've also told him I want to be sent on my way with a couple of great novels besides me.