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[EmmaMumsnet]

Thinking ahead to a time when you will no longer be here is undoubtedly not a pleasant thought. The majority of us plan other big life events such as birthdays, weddings, baby showers and/or anniversaries down to a tee, however when it comes to funerals very few of us have detailed plans in place. If there's something in particular you have in mind, whether it’s something beautiful, something personal, or even something humorous, Co-op Funeralcare would like to know.

Here’s what David Collingwood, Head of Operations for Co-op Funeralcare has to say: “Funerals are very much about personal choice and reflecting the personality and interests of an individual. This is becoming increasingly evident through the growth we’ve seen in people choosing to pre-plan their own ceremonies using a funeral plan.”

Do you have a specific piece of poetry that you want read out by a certain someone? Maybe you’d request that all of your friends and family turn up in fancy dress? Or perhaps you already have in mind a certain song that will put a smile on everyone’s face...Monty Python’s ‘Always Look on the Bright Side of Life’ and Frank Sinatra’s ‘My Way’ are popular songs requested for funerals!

Co-op Funeralcare would like to know what your funeral wishes are, so please share them below and all who comment will be entered into a prize draw, where one lucky MNer will win a £300 voucher or their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck!
MNHQ

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I don't really care but for the love of god no lilies. Can't stand the damn things.

I wouldn’t put in a single request.

Absolutely whatever would make those close to me happy or at least less unhappy at my funeral.

I would like my ashes scattered at the local park where my son is so happy feeding the geese, scattered to Train's song family tree.
The funeral I would want it to bring comfort to those I left behind whilst reminding them of me - perhaps someone could read my favorite poem The Owl and The Pussycat and there will be an old CD full of smogs lime Flying Without Wings but mainly I want it to remind my son how halifemy life was and provide him wit comfort for the years ahead

I want to be buried in a woodland or to-be-planted with trees or other beautiful place with an unmarked plot, no ceremony, only my very closest family there, no religion or music or poetry. My DH and DCs know this but also know they can deviate to suit themselves, I won't care and they may feel strongly about it.

This has been a fascinating thread to read as it's not an area I've given much thought to, not for myself or for closest family members. Having read through other's posts, I concur that it isn't about what I want as I won't be there but whatever would help my family get through it all. I would hope be celebrated and remembered fondly, with laughter at good memories, lots of music and wine.

I've specified a few favourite songs, not hymns, some poetry I like, and no black and a good wake with lots of drinking and fond memories.

Celebrate not mourn is the motto.

I hate to think about it so all I know is I want the last rites from a priest, after that I with they would just dump me somewhere. I know I’ll be dead but the thought of being enclosed-shudder

I'm quite religious, but I'd just have a request that nobody cries. (I doubt that would happen, but here's hoping)

I want the least amount of hassle but for people to have a good time

I don't mind so much about the funeral service but I haven't thought about anymore details

I was adamant that I wanted cremating and definatly not buried and I wanted Hero (wind beneath my wings) playing, but since a health scare I realised that I really am not bothered and would like my family to choose what they are comfortable with.

I've discussed funerals with my immediate family and have told them that it's totally up to them, I won't be around anyway so I would rather decisions were made that they were comfortable with. I don't have strong feelings about anything regarding what happens once I die

If I made choices now then I could have changed my mind before it comes to it anyway and so my most recent plans wouldn't necessarily be known and followed.

I'd agree with others that the funeral should be all about whatever makes any surviving family feel better.

There is a beach that is very special to me and I suppose that if my ashes get scattered anywhere, that is the place. But that doesn't really matter - I think I'd rather that beach was a place that brought back happy memories for my children.

Direct cremation for as little money as possible. I don't want anyone wasting money on stuff that makes absolutely no difference and that could be spent on life-changing stiff for the still-living.

I would quite like to have a tree or an apothocary rose bush afterwards, but I"ll be dead so probably won't care much then. It's up to my relatives/friends really.

stiff ha! I mean stuff of course :-)

I haven't planned my funeral yet, but I think I'd like it to be fun and humorous. With glitter....!! And good food!! I'd want it to be low cost though....why waste money on a dead person, when you can spend it on the living!!

I have no plans and no requests; funerals are for the living, not the dead.

I'm not big on ceremonies or symbolism so I don't really care what happens after I am dead.

I want a standard ceremony, and a traditional black wearing do! I would like no flowers but donations to a charity called PSS and a burial ceremony. And to be near my mum and husband depending who snuffs it first!

All i know it I don't want it to be an expensive affair, that id like to be buried and I don't want people wasting a load of money on flowers.

Let my family choose how they would like to celebrate my life (hopefully!)

I have a file on my computer marked 'funeral wishes' which contains one document with the words "I'm dead, I don't care!" Not helpful I know, but anyone who knows me will get it.

A friend of mine died and had no funeral (just immediate family at the crematorium) but we had a massive party with people giving speeches about her, singing her favourite songs etc. That was awesome.

I have no strong feeling about the dispatching of the body as I believe it is empty once there is no life within. So I'd probably leave it to those left behind to make decisions. (They do know how I feel about wasting money!)

I want no unnecessary expenses. It is an expense that does not need to increase because someone thinks they will do me a disservice if I don't get all the bells & whistles.

I would like to be thought of fondly, but the funeral is really just a formality that costs money to me, not a measure of anybody's love for me

The people left behind are the most important people to consider

I've not got any plans set in stone but my general feeling is that I'd like to be cremated and have my ashes scattered. It's always a place I feel at peace.

The cheapest casket available. I am pretty practical in everyday life so don't really see the point in having an expensive one that no-one really notices. None of us are religious so definitely not a long church service. A simple quick service - one poem and maybe instrumental versions of some Florence and the Machine or a calmer Muse track.
It is in my to do list go seriously give this some thought as having recently had to organise a funeral for my DM it is quite hard to second-guess what someone would have wanted whilst also meeting the expectations of other relatives / family friends. Especially as when you are grieving it is very hard to think straight. If I've written it down the pressure is completely off my family as they can just blame me!

This should say scattered by the sea lol