Just cried all the way back from nursery and need a boot up bum to pull myself together before I go back for DD!

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Everything just suddenly got to me.

DD's neurology appt is next week, which I am dreading, as we will find out if her condition is progressive, the snow is back making it hard to get to nursery etc.

There is a woman there who used to be very friendly to me until the moment she saw me change DD's nappy while her 2 year old (DD is 3.5) was using toilet. Since then I just get the cold shoulder and cat's bum face.

I don't see her very often but did today and got snubbed when I tried to make conversation and got cat's bum stares and ignored when we passed on the small path on way out.

It just seems really unfair given all the other stuff I have to deal with.

Had someone like that at playgroup too, who was friendly at first until they saw how DD was, and said things to staff in my hearing like "it makes you wonder what kind of interaction they get at home".

Surely the fact DD can't speak, staggers around, gets into everything, wears a nappy and bib and falls over a lot means its more than just ME being a rubbish parent?

Maybe she thinks her DD will catch it?

Anyway I just need to stop being so pathetic and upset so I can go back to get DD soon (cried on bus which was embarrassing).

have also hurt shoulder which means my whole arm and hand are numb and still having to lift DD etc so that's wearing me down too, and coursework due this week,

Thanks

Will a hug do before you go back? {{{FFTM}}}

And some tea? I'm all about tea at the moment.

Thanks, tea would help, or even coffee, am shattered (DD doesnt sleep well).

yay, found some choc buttons we bought to cheer DD up after her flu jab yesterday!

You don't need a boot up the bum but cats-bum-mum needs a slap round the chops!

You ARE NOT a rubbish parent. I won't hug - don't want to squish your shoulder - but will send you a virtual cuppa. Don't let them drag you down - they are twunts.

Coffee then. Honestly what a horrible woman.

I had the same thing happen when I had to go to DS' old preschool yesterday to get something signed (he's having a break until 1-1 is sorted). A lady I had previously got on really well with was asking me how he is and when I explained started looking at him as if he had grown an extra head and turned distinctly cold.

You can't even begin to treat people like that IMO.

I know, the staff are more important and they are absolutely lovely, and DD loves it there!

Must learn to drive once shoulder better (has been sore for months) as getting to and from nursery is wearing me out a bit, that would help.

Milady - It's awful isn't it, i just can't imagine/understand how people would think like that, but they clearly do.

Glad the staff are good and your DD loves it, that's the important thing. Have you seen anyone about your shoulder?

It doesn't help that the nursery is TINY and child sized, so you are right up close with the other parents and can't even begin to avoid people if they are twunts.

have had other parents not saying much but they look at me with sympathy, which is better I suppose, but just being normal would be nice.

i saw GP who just gave painkillers and physio referral but I haven't been to physio yet as was waiting for acute phase to settle so they could work on it, but it hasn't. It is a torn muscle but just isn't getting time to heal.

You need to work on your 'icy glare', have a go now.

I better get going, but sending you strong vibes.

Thanks! I think i will work on my "not looking in her direction"!

(okay probably not wine) 

You're not being pathetic.

People are vile.

My dh always does the nursery runs because I can not cope with the comparisons.

Wish there was something helpful to say re the neurologist

Thanks.

Hoping DH will pick her up today as its so snowy.

I can offer cheesecake?

I'm so sorry this is happening.

I hope your sn-parent-extra-thick-skin develops soon. You need to be strong for this life, it can be very hard.

But you are not being pathetic - a good cry helps sometimes. I still do - even though my dd2 will be 8 next birthday.

Good luck with the neuro appt.

Can you get a cortisone injection? I had one for a frozen shoulder and it was bliss!

thanks for the cheesecake

I have an extra thin skin as I was bullied at school, so it's taking longer to develop.

RE cortisone injection, will make GP appointment to ask for one I think.

Aaw people are just horrid at times! I agree with meltedmarsbars, it is hard and you do need an extra thick skin. I thought I had one anyway but then discovered ds was the chink in my armour.

I get similar at times with my DS, he is size of a 7yr old at 5, and still in prescription nappies. Have a short while indulging in something sweet, does the world of good.

Thanks.

yes, I have some really good friends, when I told them about DD they just gave me a hug and were lovely.

Aargh am tearing up again and about to go and get DD, at least DH is coming too!