Just cried all the way back from nursery and need a boot up bum to pull myself together before I go back for DD!

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Everything just suddenly got to me.

DD's neurology appt is next week, which I am dreading, as we will find out if her condition is progressive, the snow is back making it hard to get to nursery etc.

There is a woman there who used to be very friendly to me until the moment she saw me change DD's nappy while her 2 year old (DD is 3.5) was using toilet. Since then I just get the cold shoulder and cat's bum face.

I don't see her very often but did today and got snubbed when I tried to make conversation and got cat's bum stares and ignored when we passed on the small path on way out.

It just seems really unfair given all the other stuff I have to deal with.

Had someone like that at playgroup too, who was friendly at first until they saw how DD was, and said things to staff in my hearing like "it makes you wonder what kind of interaction they get at home".

Surely the fact DD can't speak, staggers around, gets into everything, wears a nappy and bib and falls over a lot means its more than just ME being a rubbish parent?

Maybe she thinks her DD will catch it?

Anyway I just need to stop being so pathetic and upset so I can go back to get DD soon (cried on bus which was embarrassing).

It got even worse, DH gave us a lift as the weather is horrendous, but then gave me a hard time the whole way about how he is too busy with work, and then said that that was the reason he had applied for a job further away recently, so he didnt have to help me during the working day.

He didn't take the job anyway as it wasn't better paid and he said he wanted to be nearer to help more (!?)

He is just stressed I suppose, but I don't ask for lifts every day, just when there is a blizzard outside and my shoulder isnt up to pushing buggy through snow.

Current job is now better paid, will think of uses for the money, driving lessons are probably number 1 priority once shoulder is better I think!

re the arse question, he was telling me about his pressures, but was also being an arse IMO!

He just apologised for being an arse, so i suppose I can forgive him!

Sending extra layer of thicker skin for you. Don't let cats arse face get to you, you know how bullies work! She wins if she makes you feel any emotion other than happiness. You are better than that!

I'm sure her DD is absolutely perfect in every single way, a shining example of todays marvellous paretning by her and her alone. And another thing, look how her mother behaves, what a fantastic example to set!!!

Make sure you get your DD to breathe on hers, touch her lots, just incase it is catching!!!!

Thanks Mouseface.

Her DDs do seem pretty mature and advanced actually, the 2 year old is way ahead of DD.

Ah well, i know what you mean about the personality being passed on, one of the worst bullies I knew as a kid had a really awful bitchy mother!

DD just has a wimpy shy one!!

"Had someone like that at playgroup too, who was friendly at first until they saw how DD was, and said things to staff in my hearing like "it makes you wonder what kind of interaction they get at home"."

This is dreadful? Did you talk to the staff about it? If someone had said that about ds1 when he was at nursery the manager would have picked them up on it (I sobbed on her shoulder a lot!) It's really, really not on.

It was very painful at the time as friend's deserted in droves at the time of diagnosis, but I often look around now and think how lucky I am to have a great bunch of people in my life. I see ds1's 'filtering' effect as an plus now.

Hey Fanjo-don't let the f*ckers get you down. People surprise you all the time and sometimes not in a good way. This weather is getting to everyone eh.
How is your wee girl? Is your appointment next week did you say? Good luck-keep us posted.

I didn't speak to the staff there, I would if it happened at the nursery she is at now though, as they are more understanding.

waitingforgodot - DD is fine, she loves nursery, her speech regressed a lot when she had a cold recently so she is mostly just slurring and babbling, she is still staggering a lot, it's a worry. The appointment is next Wednesday, don't think we will get much of a diagnosis at that one though.

Sorry to hear that your feeling so poo! and sorry that people around you arnt helping- I agree with Suess in that cats-bum-mum certinaly needs a good ol slap around the chops!!! I just cannot even start to comphrend how people can be so down right nasty and ignorant- makes me

I noticed your interested in learning to drive- check out family fuind as they can help out with the cost of driving lessons and test etc- might be worth a look

Damn :/

Quick hug. Need to change my almost 4yo's nappy because he stinks to high heaven [gag]

that is great she is loving nursery. What do you reckon they will do at your appointment?

i don't know, I was told they were going to do tests straight away, over a month ago, then this appointment came through so I suppose they want to take a more thorough history first and then decide on which tests, might do blood tests at this one though (they are suspecting something metabolic or genetic).

thanks ouryve {grin]

off to change MY 3 year olds pooey nappy!

Not sure what you're moaning about, off to change my nappy, pelvic floor is shot to bits!!!!!!

oh mine too!

I'll keep quiet about the 6 year old in nappies,then, because really don't want that look ;)