OK so
DS1's school recently made several TA's redundant, I knew this but had to take a wait and see approach. I didn't know until their last day. Head was newin Spetember and apart from a brief thanks for Christmas chocs does not speak and avoids people generally: this is even taking intoa cocunt I am volunteering at th school 1/2 sessions a week.
Thre are two aggressive children in yr5,ds1 and another boy. I know nothing of him (no obvious SN but thatmeans nowt ofcourse) but know he has access to resurce room,and I have seen him hit teachers before. I will call him X.
DS1 has had deteriorating behaviour recently- stealing things to make potions, verbally aggressive, same oldsame old frankly.
We also have a new rise of the gangs, this time he and X areleading gangs. I have spoken to the old Head many times about this and it was promised itnwould be stopped, and I have also emailed repeatedly in absence of any contact with new Head. I amde notes inink book as well but haven't had it back since as 1-1 took it home and forgot toreturn it. I get impression 1-1 is so overrun that she has totake it home to do it.
DS1 gets 10 hours small group provision aweek on his statement.
In school today I saw prefects telling a teacher that X had a weapon on him, something sharp. Teacher asked him to bin it, he walked off and came back grinning, showing it o prefect as he walked past. Prefect told teachers, who shrugged and said tell a teacher on yard duty. I was dealing with ds2 at the time (he has an infection that needs treatment) so have no idea what then happened.
Anyway, at end of school ds1 comes out with threecakes.I explain that he has to give one each to his brothers, he storms off screaming bastard at me. Goes into classroom and collects uniform, he is wearing ds2's unifiorm becuase his PE kit and coat are missing again.
Dh turns up with ds4 at this point,thank goodness.
DS1 is growling and we head home. On way home he gets knocked accidentally by a gate that swings into himwhen ds3 pushes it. he comes over and screams bastard at DH,starts really hitting him. DH grabs his hands fopr a minute then marches him off home,firmly but gently.
Kids arepointing at dh out car windows laughing at this point.
When I get home I talk tods1.Apaprently he has had enough of the school, his 1-1support has reduced dramatically becuase the TA who previously spent most of her timewith him is now also TA'ing another child, I have a feeling that other child ison full1-1 but will check with his Mum tomorow. he therefore spends all day in classroom most days with no real smallgroup provision.This amkes sense so far, other kid's 1-1 was let go. This afternoon they needed someone towatch him ashe was taking the classsalter on with support and as there was no provision took me off reader duty to provide 1-1 for him. Now,Ia dore that kid soloved it but sitting watch him draw is hardly useful to him is it?
DS1says when he gets X alsone (and he willeventually) he will break his neck,X swears at him constantly and ds1 finds that hard to dealwith.
Since then ds1 has been on the rampage, bullying threatening and generally melting down.
What do I do? Obv.done allthe you cannot hurt X stuff but tono avail.
Have offered schoolmany timesforme togo for additionalhours for ds1 but never even had a reply.
I have to send ds1 in tomorrow as I have ds3's statement review at the unit.
I have no idea what to do, clearly school has collapsed under the current regime of mionimalprovision only and I don't know how to go on as I cannot prove he isn't getting his hours but there is one seriously upset kid torturing a stuffed toy ATM.