thanks, grumpy, i'll take a look later, and discuss with dh.
Phoenix - is it you who had the "maybe moving to Kent" thread? I kept meaning to answer, but got caught up with all things festive.
We moved away form Kent because they were so bloody hopeless and procrastinating. ironically, we now want dd1 to go to school inKent (a private SN school) and so are arguing for uot of county palcement form Surrey (which was approved in theory as Surrey have no SN place for dd1)
I currently drive 40 miles each way to dd1's chool (we are privatley funding awaiting Tribunal), but we cannot contemplate moving back to Kent as they are, in our experience just so bloody awful. They would re-assess instantly (assuming we win Tribunal) and would fight hard and dirty. They have recently emplyed a full time lawyer for tribunals, and fight to the death (said lawyer used to win against them a lot. they offered big money for lawyer to switch sides)
Starlight - yes, scared shitless here too. we know we have a brilliant case. Our ABA cons reckons he's never seen sucha clear cut case of a child needing an ABA school (dd1 appears not to have huge LDs, but her autism is a massive barrier for her. her control issues are immense, and she is an expert adult manipulator. put her in any "normal" Sn school, and she calls the shots without the staff even realising it ) but still, there is always the "what if..."
we are privately funding dd1 at ABA school while we fight, but cannot do so forever. I cannot even contemplate not winning, tbh, as it would all be such a mess.