DS (6) has social communication difficulties (possibly AS) and has just entered Y2.
He has two teachers. One pretty straight (taught at the school we moved him from as it was sooo uninspirational and strict). The other seems a bit more understanding but we have not seem much of her yet.
They have been good (or the TA has) at settling him. I had a long chat with Teacher 1 at the start of term. So far so good.
However, I had a battle about his handwriting the other week as he has hypermobility and hyptonia and is finding it a struggle. They were insisting he persevere and he told me teacher 1 shouted at him for being too slow and that he was prevented from joining the class in the next task because it took him so long to finish.
He was hysterical when he got home and it took me an age the next sunday to get him to write.
Teacher 1 called it a matter of 'self belief' and said they would encourage him to join the letters but that was what they expected. She said if he was upset he could come and talk to her himslef. He has social communication difficulties - daaaah! . I reminded her he had physical problems with it and this was acknowledged by all the doctors' he had seen.
Teacher 2 then agreed they wouldn't push it.
I supplied pen grips and have offered to supply a Movinsit cushion recommended by the OT. Teacher 1 has been the only one in this week and she has ignored the email I sent on it.
Today DS comes home and says his reading book hasn't been changed all week and his homework hasn't been marked because he has been bad. I know he is supposed to get his books out of his book bag at the start of the day to leave on the desk for the teacher. He says he keeps forgetting what to do with it. He said everyone got a teampoint but him.
The annoying thing was with the new pen grips and encouragement and writing how he liked, he did his homework brilliantly this week and enjoyed it. It was really neat and I was really proud of him. I emailed the teachers to mention this - without response.
Tonight, I've had him punching himself with frustration for not knowing what he did wrong
I don't know what happened but this is can't go on. I have asked for a meeting but I feel let down. It's like they say they understand. They've got him in a social skills group and 3 hours TA support a week but they don't tell me anything about that or even whether he is on the SEN register. Then as soon as it's tested e.g. he forgets something, or he has problems writing, he gets punished.
If I wasn't so numb and sick of all this I would cry!!!!His teachers really accepted him for him last year but now it feels like he's just the nuisance kid who doesn't always follow instructions and forgets to say please and thank you again (that's how they saw him in his old school)
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debs40 · 24/09/2009 17:31
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