How sad

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....That the parent of an SN child could insinuate that other SN children have the problems that they have because their parents are in some way to blame.

I thought that the 'refrigerator mother' theory had largely died a death and thank god for it.

I might well be making things worse by posting this, I honestly hope that I am not.

But how very, very sad that people have ended up being abused on a part of the site that has always been so supportive. I hope that things get back to normal asap.

Couldn't agree more, hmb!

I know the thread you are talking about, and it is sad, made me quite mad actually

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I agree this is very very sad but i have not seen the thread

It's annoying because if the poster had read all the posts on the thread they would have seen that they are NOT the only ones living with AS/HFA. It's also sad because they could have got so much from MN.

I find it so odd that this person is fighting with the people who have the closest undertanding of ASD. If she was havinbg apunch up with me, I'd understand it better!

maybe she's drunk?

Does anyone think the statement that they "joined" that thread "for research purposes" now sounds a little odd?

I just wonder whether the later posts may perhaps be the child, not the parent? (If taken at face value at all?)

Apparently the poster's ds is 12 so it's possible that it could be him instead. Very sad either way.

and at what has gone on.

Binkie - good point. the word 'research' seemed odd to me too.

Now i have seen it and i am totally ed i can't believe the way that person is speaking its very very

It's strange that the poster has never mentioned having AS themselves before today so I'm still wondering if it's the poster's ds. The posts are certainly very childish. As others have speculated it may also be someone who has come over here following the TES thread.

TES thread?

I apologise for interfering on that thread just couldn't help myself, I hope I didn't wind things up even more

On the TES site (a site mainly for teachers) there is a thread about ASBOs and autism. To say it got heated is probably an understatement. I don't know the address but if you go to the TES staffroom forum and click on "opinions" you should be able to find it - if it hasn't been deleted yet.

Oh no, and its me again The only 2 times we've had agro on SN its been me..... I post quite spontaneously and feel very relaxed here, maybe I should be more cautious?

Davros - I think this time you were the innocent party! I re-read your post umpteen times and still couldn't find anything to trigger off an attack like that.

You can keep your "old cow" title though.

it's ok davros - we're sweetness and light compared to the TES.

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The comment was something along the lines of 'is it any wonder your children are lf' Which left me astonished as it was so offensive.

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Sorry, re -read it and it is ' it is no co-incidence that your children are lf'

Initialy I read that as being ....'because of you as parents' Re-reading it I realise it could be co-incidence that the people who were 'against' her were parents of lf children.

This

'Oh yes, I notice the ones who have stuck up for you are jimjams and BH. What a coincidence your kids are not HF! What is it with you LF parents, jealousy or what??????????????????????????'

Was the bit I read in that way, and now see that it can be read in another, equally offensive, way.

......who would of thought that

This...."One of the best documentaries i've seen on autism. I wasn't able to watch it last night as I went to an NAS branch social night, but my DH taped it for me. I watched it this morning and I wept . It was so sad and so close to home. My DS aged 12 is high functioning too and he exhibits similar behaviours, swears and hits his own forhead too! It is so hard for these kids going through the emotions of puberty - it's hard enough for NT kids!

I'm so glad that it showed the extreme behaviours, I only wish that all professionals who come into contact with autistic children could have seen it especially teachers. It has certainly raised awareness, we need more ducumentaries like this. "

.........which was 'her' 1st post on THAT thread would have led to such abusive disgusting language.

I just flicked through the thread to see how she started as i only noticed her when it all went sour...and to be honest i was shocked how 'gentle' she started!!!!