How do you deal with 'Non-believers'

[Frasersmum123]

I hope you dont mind me posting this here, but I thought I would get a better response here.

My DS is 2 next month and still isnt speaking. He is also very withdrawn and not sociable at all. I am seeing my GP tomorrow to discuss his development, and I mentioned this to my step-MIL, who is now going all out to convince me there is nothing wrong with him.

I am not saying he has A,B or C, but I am comncerned about his lack of speach and understanding, and my Step-MIL is exausting me in her efforts. I dont want to be rude to her, but my instincts are telling me to push for some kind of review.

Has anyone else had a similar situation - what should I do?

"I dont want to go in with a list of all the things he doesnt do so that it looks like I have already made some kind of diagnosis."

wise!!!

I do actually think there can be a negative effect of the assessment process on some children especially mine who has now developed a fear of doctors! One lesson I've learnt is that the hearing test we went to was completely inappropriate for his language level. Another lesson I've learnt is that whilst most paediatrician's offices have toys, there may be a policy of sending the paediatrician to your home town for your convenience. Very admirable in principle but then you turn up and ask you 3-year-old to do nothing in a small unfurnished toy-free cell for an hour - oh, other than sit on a chair that's in mid-air - you're going to need biscuits and lots of them. So you may find it worthwhile forewarning yourself about what will happen at assessments in a lot of detail. The services are not all as "joined up" as one could wish. Had I been forewarned, I could have easily requested a different audiology test and travelled to the paediatrician's usual office (which is apparently lovely and kiddy-friendly) rather than having her come to me.