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Feeling down!

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sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 21:13

Today I had a breakdown after Dd1 put toothpaste all over the bathroom. I just feel crap and don't know how much more I can take. SIL phoned me just as it all happened and I sobbed down the phone to her. Of course DH now thinks I don't want to talk to him about it all. He seems to think there is a problem with with our relationship when actually its nothing to do with that at all. I just can't handle her behaviour much longer. I feel like a crap mother and feel guilty that I have thought about foster care.

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misdee · 15/03/2005 21:43

yup. 'mieow, cakes!!!'

sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 21:44

you must think I am so silly Misdee, after all you are goign through too...

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ThomCat · 15/03/2005 21:45

Yes you need sleep, some regular breaks, and time.
It will be okay, it alwyas is, in the end. My nan always said so I she always spoke the truth.

misdee · 15/03/2005 21:45

you're not silly. your dd1 is very tiring, i get tired just watching her. and the constant 'no, dont do that' etc etc. she exhausts me after an hour, and you deal with her daily, week in week out. you need to get respite and you need it now.

and you need that holiday. you deserve it.

sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 21:47

I know, feel guilty about leaving her with mum and dad for it tho. Shes so much work, I dread to think how mum and dad will cope!

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misdee · 15/03/2005 21:49

they'll bring her here or take her to other sisters

sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 21:50

I can't believe I actually broke down, I never do that, get tearful... yes.... but a full on breakdown, haven't done that since I had PND

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misdee · 15/03/2005 21:55

i can belive it. you are under a lot of pressure. everyone is alowed to have moments like this. some more than most. you can take so much ,then one thing, something some would see as little can push you too far. with me it was dd2 destroying her puzzles. argh.

sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 21:57

I know, toothpaste on the bathroom floor is hardly big is it? But it just threw me over the edge. She had been screaming at us for more drinks and when we said no, she had hitted us and screamed at us.

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sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 22:00

she started screaming as soon as I picked her up from school, ran in the road, screamed because I wouldn't let her sit in the front, screamed again when I said she could only have 1 chocolate at the shops not two, then screamed again because I didn't have enough money to buy a drink too. Then because she couldn't go on the train outside the shop, then because she couldn't have any more pizza for dinner, then the drinks, then the toothpaste.

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sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 22:01

and I just lost the plot then...

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misdee · 15/03/2005 22:02

i'd have lost it way b4 then.

Blossomhill · 15/03/2005 22:04

Well, mieow I don;t think there are many people that wouldn't tbh.

sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 22:05

I feel so drained now, I have a sore throat, don't know if it because I was crying so hard or because its part of the bug I had yesterday?!

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Blossomhill · 15/03/2005 22:06

Probably a bit of both mieow. It's hard enought o deal with but if you are ill as well makes it even harder.

sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 22:08

I felt so rough yesterday, felt dizzy, sick, headache, hot and cold flushes, I feel fine today, just drained and my throat hurts.

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sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 22:12

its the screaming and the bad behaviour I can't handle the most, she said to me as I took her to bed "you called me bad!!!" god I felt soooo guilty then!

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sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 22:31

I am sitting here trying to work out the next plan of action, I think I will take her to the GPs tomorrow

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Blossomhill · 15/03/2005 22:35

Good idea mieow. May move things on for you

sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 22:51

just done an online checklist for DD1 and she has all the symptons of ADHD. I did speak to her teacher and she said that DD1 does shout out answers, can't wait her turn, appartently she is popular but I wonder how much of that is "forced" on the other kids, I know what she is like, and seen some kids back away from her when she thinks they are her best mates. She has been invited to a cimera party and I am so worried about it, as I know she won't be able to sit still that long....

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Blossomhill · 15/03/2005 23:10

God mieow she sounds like my dd. We have never taken her to a cinema for that very reason. feel bad though as take ds a lot and want to take dd but think she would find it too much
Could the cp not throw out symptoms such as adhd/as??? I know it's common for children to have dual dx?

sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 23:20

thats what the docs have all said up till now, they say its because she is immature and her CP makes her younger than her actual age. We have reports that say she climb on things even after being told not to, that she has no sense of personal safety, that she escaped from the room, that she refused to sit still for examination etc etc. Does your DD "forced" friendships on other kids??

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JaysMum · 15/03/2005 23:32

Oh sparkly ......have read through this thread and just want to say you are not the only one who feels like you have today.....dont worry....its only natural.

sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 23:44

Thanks Jaysmum, I am going to go bed soon, before DD1 wakes up for the first time, i know she will be soon.

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sparklymieow · 15/03/2005 23:50

she's up!!

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