A SALT more specialised in receptive language delay (probably from an ASD unit? who knows) will come to assess DS2 (3.2) at nursery tomorrow. I know it will be more negative than how I think about him and that's ok - doing her job, etc.
Is there any accessible information that would help me find out what kind of place on the speech centile charts he would now be on if my "mum" assessment is right? I'll probably be a bit down after the assessment so want to think it through now.
This is how I would see DS2 in a "snapshot" right now, (sorry so long). If you remember my first posts you'll see how much things have changed....and I really do think that depriving him of recorded music has made part of the difference. It's like a drug for him!
receptive speech:
DS2 understands everything I say to him about our daily routine. He understands my 3-word sentences ("give a banana to DS1")in context. He can understand simple instructions from a different room ("DS2 come back to the kitchen and put your plate away please" REPLY "ok"). Have told DS1 he no longer needs to use 1 word at a time (DS1 did this instinctively to help) but can use sentences.
expressive speech:nearly 150 "real" words now (I said 200 on here in July - I was so wrong! I was just coaching him! but now it's qualitatively different). About 20 of them verbs with 20 other more "not quite consistent" verbs coming.
combining spontaneously into 2-word sentences with more fluency and variety every day (DH noticed a difference after being away for a week). These are increasingly natural-sounding eg "whatsthematter DS1" when DS1 burst into tears or "mummy got hurt" when I say "ow!" after being jumped on by DS1.
still uses a single word to represent the word he can't think of eg when tired he will use the word "open" instead of "cut". Many examples of this. Many overgeneralisations still. eg his water words are "water" "bath" "sea" "puddle" but all other bodies of water such as rivers, waterfalls, streams, etc are described as one of these or as "splishsploshsplash". So doesn't have a word for everything in his life yet (we live by a waterfall, stream, pond etc)
names family members spontaneously with ease ("hello daddy!"). Starting to do the same for other children. But if DH says "hello DS2" will still say "hello mummy" in reply (overgeneralising again - he used to just repeat and it was hard for him to learn to say my name instead of his own). Uses own name in sentences.
Echolalia fading - appears when tired or insecure or doesn't understand someone. Rare now with me but still uses assertive tone + repeat language instead of "yes". Starting to say "yes" before the assertive repeat but this is very much learned not natural to him.
Understands the basic "who" "where" and "what" questions. Just starting to understand answers to where questions that involve "school" "work" or other places that he can't see. Progressing fast here. Always answers "what can you see?" appropriately. Nearly there with "eat" "hold" and "wear" but still muddles them when tired.
No "why"or "when" questions yet. Progressing but not there yet with "shoes on first THEN park" and other two-event sequences. Understands "it's time to" but still doesn't always understand the description of where we're going next.
Just starting to get to grips with under/over on/off etc. Good with up/down.
Lastly, the grandma test: my mum says "this child talks just as you would expect a two-year old child to" (ie she found his speech pretty "normal" but a year or so behind other kids his age when we spent a week with her).
Other areas. Doesn't initiate socially with (new)nursery peers yet. Passive and quiet there. But joins in any physical game initiated by others (involving bouncing, falling, giggling, etc) with great skill, great care for others' space and excellent turn-taking. Visited "old" nursery friend and they trotted off together up to the bedroom after 10 minutes' hesitation (it was his first time in that house) and did about 10 minutes cooperatively on the train track.
Initiates socially with family and especially brother all the time.
When alone, "role-plays" conversations with brother (hardly sings now! poor thing! his cruel mother wanted him to talk instead! My psychotherapist neighbour thinks I'm terrible!)
Understands all my tones of voice and facial expressions. Understands when I'm joking, cross, playful, teasing, etc from either of these. Switched on and engaged with me at pretty much all times even if engrossed in trains or listening to music. There is no activity I can't join in. Not in a bubble. Not in "own world"
Not the most imaginative child but happy to play along with "doggy" going to sleep, waking up, etc. Pretends objects are other objects. Now pretends to be a "monsta" by holding out arms and making monster noise. Wants me and others to look scared and scream in response. It doesn't matter if we don't run away so he understands the meaning of the game is more than physical. When DS1 is a "monster", DS2 pretends to be scared and runs to me to pretend he needs protecting from DS1 but also laughing.
Fascinated by numbers, loves looking at the second hand on the clock, identifies speed limit signs and traffic light colours all the time. Since the days got shorter, adores turning the lights on and off. Lights on and off is the obsession. Does it about 50 times a day if nothing else is going on . Also flushes the loo about 20 times a day. Will pester to be allowed to do this at other people's houses.
Apologies and thanks to anyone who got this far....