Hand hold please

[Crystallizedring]

So on Tuesday DS starts reception. I'm absolutely terrified and dreading it, even though he has been incredibly hard work since stopping nursery.
DS has no idea. We've shown him the school, he's been on settles (didn't go well), put his uniform on and talked about school but his understanding isn't enough for him to know what's happening.
I'm just so scared for him. He's doing 90 minutes a day to start with but in a lot of ways he is so little. In nappies, social, emotional and cognitive wise he's at the stage of a 26 month old, he has no language.
He's in mainstream as EHCP is still going through. I just need a hand hold and for someone to keep me sane until Tuesday morning. Please.

There’s a current thread here you could join:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/special_needs/5154316-starting-reception?reply=138169822

Wishing you the best of luck, it’s such a worrying time

You can have a handhold from me

Hey , just thought I'd ask how did your son get on in Reception?

@SL22you could try an @ to see if you can get the OP’s attention

@Crystallizedring
HI 👋, just thought I'd ask how your sons getting on in Reception?

He's doing okay thanks. He absolutely loves school although he's only doing 2 hours a day. He now has his EHCP in place which is good.
Despite that I'm fighting with LA to get him in to a SEN school. While he loves school he isn't doing any form of learning. I know a lot of reception is learning through play but he isn't really learning at all. I know a big part is the fact he's non verbal which is why I want a place in a special school.
On the whole though it's really gone much better than I thought. He is always eager to get to school, and to me that's really important.

Hi , Thanks for replying. Really glad to hear that . My son did two years of reception as I deferred him then started year 1 in a sen provision. His first year of reception was a reduced time table like your son . He loved reception too but
he would not have been able to sit at a desk allday and do formal learning. As its quite a change in year 1. But glad its all worked out & hoping you get a sen provision sorted soon.

Funnily enough school have suggested two years in reception too as they don't think he'll cope with Y1 (which I agree with).
How is your son getting on now

My sons getting on well. He transitioned into the sen school well.
When he first started mainstream reception he would headbang the floor . Scream , would get very frustrated if things didn't fit together or one part to something was missing. But by the end of reception in his second year headbanging had pretty much stopped ,as did screaming. He came on alot , so 100% deferring helped . Just the extra time to develop, learn , seeing how to play etc. Do you mind me asking does your son have a one to one?

Yes he does have 1:1. He has done since he first started although his 1:1 seems to change on a regular basis which always throws him for a couple of days.

That's good his got 1 to 1 . I never seemed to get that option . Did you request a 1 to 1?

When we went for the parents evening before he started we had a really long conversation with the head, explaining his needs and that he would probably need a 1:1. This meant they delayed his start by about a month (to sort staff) but I'm pretty sure he would have got a 1:1 if we hadn't asked once they realised the extent of his needs.
Although he didn't have a 1;1 at nursery but he was on a higher ratio than normal for his age
(4 children to 1 adult instead of 8 children to 1 adult)

Thanks for replying.

Seems like a good school on board with you.