DS met a lovely boy at the playground today

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Boy was similar age to DS, possibly slightly older (in Reception), and was extremely patient getting DS to play fire engines with him, despite DS being a bit unresponsive at attempts to talk to him at first, and being a little slow to understand what he wanted him to do. Nice to see them playing together, but a bittersweet feeling in terms of how behind DS is. Now what's the odds that we never see the lad again

DS2 has met a girl in his m/s Reception class who's like this - very patient (but also giggly and silly which he likes). She just never gives up with him.

Hope you do meet him again!

oh yes, DS also has a similar female "minder" in nursery - am praying she remains into reception there

'Minder' is exactly the right word . She won't let anyone else get near him!

That is lovely TC . I know how pleased I felt when a lad who looked a little older than Ds1 came racing up to him once in nursery (it was a parent's afternoon) and said "Hello T!" Ds1 didn't reply, but this didn't deter this other boy. I heard him saying to his mum as they headed into the classroom:
"I like T, he's funny" .

Heee! DS1 has such a female minder at nursery, too! She has special needs of her own, but unlike DS1 is very social and she is very caring and has been fixated on both my boys for over a year now, always saying hello and making a fuss over them. DS1 has started playing alongside her at nursery, which is wonderful for him because some of the other kids are beginning to get a bit freaked out by his weirdness.

DS2 went over to this girl last week and hugged her. He's never done this before to a child, except DS1. It was nice - in the class assembly last week they were talking about each child's special strengths and they put up a photo of DS2 and this girl and talked about how good she had been at helping him settle in. No mention of his SN, just that he was a 'new boy' (he wasn't at the assembly as he only does half days).

Can be a bit of a problem in a way in that she does everything for him if she's allowed. She'll have his coat off and hung up, his water bottle put away and his book bag in the box before you can blink . And of course he's supposed to do these things himself.

Girls are lovely aren't they? Though of course the lovely child in TC's op was a boy!

This is so sweet

There is a boy in my DDs class that a year older then her (mixed year class R/Yr 1) and he helps DD to do everything including getting dressed after PE tight, blouse the lot..... LOL .

And DD being the lazy little moo that she is, just stands and lets him .

DS1 (6, dyspraxic traits) gets this too. If I ever go into the classroom at the end of the day, he's got about four children running around saying 'Shall I help you DS1?' and suddenly all his possessions appear on the desk in front of him.
Lovely - but doesn't help him to organise himself one bit!

This thread is so sweet. There is a little girl in DS's nursery that is always giving him kisses and hugs. I have invited her home with her mum, she is such a lovely kind little girl.
One of my biggest worries in life is whether DS will be accepted by his peers and have friends.

My DS used to have a little friend at his last nursery who always played with him and seemed fascinated by him. He always came to give him a goodbye hug. I wish adults were more like that sometimes

yesterday in the library DS and a slightly older boy were huddled round the picture books, and DS was "reading" Tiger by Nick Butterworth out to the other boy (well commenting on the pictures iyswim). which was very nice to see.

Yep, ds1 has a 'minder' and also a tendency to get mobbed by little ones who seem to think he's a teddy bear. He's fairly oblivious to lots of it tbh, but it all adds up and he does seem fairly happy there (ended up in hospital yesterday after a fall in the playground and still wanted to go in today- couldn't though, several stitches etc- benefits of a hyposensory child no. 1: not flinching despite bwing put through fairly major facial work!)

oh dear what a pain for you having to traipse to hospital along with new baby, glad to hear that DS3 was compliant with the procedures. Have had a couple of A & E trips recently with DS where he has been pretty good apart from X-rays and calpol (misdiagnosed chest infection).

btw upshot of DS joint clinic appointment was - probably not ASD, but concerned about his receptive language, so SALT allegedly are going to send someone in once a week to his nursery to work with him. But apparently SALT department has to have a meeting first (which will only take 4 to 6 weeks apparently). So will quite frankly be pleased if SALT gets started at any point this term.

It takes so long doesn't it? . Good news that things are finally happening for you though. Seemed like you'd been stuck on those lists forever! 4-6 weeks not that long in comparison.

Foryunately I didn't have to go to hospital, DH took him as it was close to boys needing school pickup and there's no BF facilities in the kids day unit .

yeees, but is it really going to be 4-6 weeks - my friend whose DD has had lots of orthopaedic/neuro appointments reckons 4-6 weeks is their shorthand for god knows when!

unbelievable about the bfing. you'ld think a kids hospital might have a vested interest in encouraging bf as it lowers the risk of babies having gastroenteritis....

they also said give it a term in m/s reception, then look at possible transfer to language unit. apparently most parents up here refuse the language unit places .

I don't hget that about sn places- most aprents here fight for MS; that's fine if you know your kid will cope, but so many of them get transferred a term later- what's the point? Surely stability is the best thing?

I think part of the problem may be that the sn places get sprung on parents - that the pros don't mention them unless they are happy and ready to allocate one - if it was presented as a possibility at the start of the referral process then it might come as less of a thunderbolt. e.g. it's been me mentioning lang units all along- me who asked the joint clinic about them - I don't know if they would have bothered to mention it at this stage had I not asked.

I'm very sorry that your DS had such awful experiences TClanger. I do worry a lot about bullying etc, but I'm trying to stick my head in the sand at the moment on that one. I do agree - that the better speakers/communicators are less phased by having to repeat/simplify what they are saying to DS.

I'm very sorry that your DS had such awful experiences TClanger. I do worry a lot about bullying etc, but I'm trying to stick my head in the sand at the moment on that one. I do agree - that the better speakers/communicators are less phased by having to repeat/simplify what they are saying to DS.

on a separate subject - when your boy has the ICAN assessment, did they look into auditory processing problems? As the more I think about it, the more I wonder whether that's behind my boy's receptive speech problems. Private SALT is coming next week, and to do a nursery visit too, so I'll ask her about it then. I want private SALT to look at visual timetables and pecs for nursery, to help DS understand what's going on and to socialise with others.

thanks TClanger. DS's nursery has had him copying them with banging on a drum to help his listening skills, so it sounds like although they aren't very good at feeding back to me (we have the odd brief chat at home time) they are spot on with what they are doing.