avoiding mumsnet for a while

[needmorecoffee]

because some things are making me uncomfortable and I wonder who is laping up details of our children's lives.

I post very little of my private life here, the odd funny comment but that is it.

Are you ok ??

I'm fine, just wondering why blokes would hang around mumsnet. It makes me uncomfortable.

My husband is a bloke he is also a Dad.

I think that comment is highly offensive to the guys who post on here.

I said it made me uncomfortable. Espceially childless men.

I was unaware of any childless men on here.

I think I know who you are referring to nmc, though I think (if I'm correct) that he has a ot of contact with children just like the childless teaching assistants and so on that post on here. His views are uncomfortable and I felt awkward just reading them.
It is difficult and I do wonder if some of the posters are seeking vicarious pleasure, but then aren't we all a tiny bit -a long way down the list after support and advice -but a glimpse into someone's life satisfys natural human curiosity.
Keep posting and ignore?
Go on 'time to rant? Although my requests to go on there have been ignored!

i think since the troll stuff of the other week. we have to be careful what we post. which is sad. I would love more dads to post on sn. BUT i feel very uncomfatable with this particular one. and will not be posting anything about dd untill I feel "safe" thank god for TTR.

Hi there people,

As a newbie on here it struck me how easy it is to breeze into this site without any vetting at all of who you are.

I moderate another support group and we have had to put up a level of security precisely because people were coming in for negative reasons (putting it politely).

Anyone posting on here would be wise to reveal very little about themselves and certainly nothing that would allow anyone to work out who you are.

That having been said, I do find the suggestion that this is a wimin only site for mums one that you should explore.

As a dad of some 16 years, most of that full time too, I find the suggestion that somehow only women can parent a bit "outdated".

Neither should that be taken to deny the role of mum's either.

I think dads lose out by not being there with their kids.

should be called parentsnet then.
Woemn do have a different perspective than men in their support groups and thats why I joined MN.
But thats just me.
my partner is a fantastic dad but I wouldn't want him hanging out with my female friends at toddlers and such. It would change the atmosphere and what was talked about.
But then being a muslim I avoid non-mahram men anyhow.

i think dads are good on mn. i have talked to a few nice ones. maybe sn is not the place for them as we talk about some really private revealing stuff. but i can't see how you could ban them.
it is a shame but there have been a couple of odd people who have ruined the feel of the sn board.
(it takes a while to feel you know someone)

I think dads lose out by not being there with their kids.
I agree with you there talis
but
big but
why do people come on here and offer advice. then will not post anything aboput their situation. surely that doesn't help trust to be built.

Taliesintraction just bite the bullet
tell people about your sn child

yeah, cos this is what this forum is actually for, rather than telling us what we are doing wrong etc or defending banadoning ones child.

This is very dificult.

I have written this post about 6 times and each time binned it because it came over as very negative.

We have lovely 15 yo NI twins, one of them has a very peculiar problem processing language.

Basically where something can be spatially represented he can cope fine indeed anything practical he is your man.

Today he did a very tricky reversing manouvere putting a 1950's truck into a very small gap.

But ask him to manage things that are verbal, be that written or spoken then he really struggles.

Thats not to say he does not or cannot speak it's something to do with internal processing of information that is stored verbally.

This is not dyslexia, even though he has a broth and sis who are dyslexic and I would be dyslexic if I could spell it or be bothered to do the tests.

I would like to say education with him has been a breeze, and that would make me a liar.

Primary school was a nightmare, his behaviour became completely off the wall. It got so his mum would not go to school and pick him up, because the head would allways "want a word".

The report sent to the high school was horrific, fortunately the HS SENCO was in another league and he settled almost instantly and there have been no problems since.

The man himself had his part to play in this, him being an expert "button pusher" and knowing intuitively which ones to push for best effect.

The diference though ? High school think outside the box, when things didn't work they never said it was because he was stupid, they tried something else until they found something that worked.

He probably won't do GCSE's but he has got through high school without being excluded (so far)

He is a demon driver, ace winger (Not quite as good as Shane Williams - yet) and a real time grafter with a heart of gold.

Yeah I am pretty proud of him.

Of course thats the daily mail precis, there are and have been a few more children besides

Thank you for introducing your child Talies.

very nice description of your boy

ive been thinking of this thread for a few days. ive never gone into detail about my ds but i consider him to have SN. is there a kind of 'yes thats sn and no, thats not' list?

myself and his specialist are on one side and his school and gp are on another!!!

I think it is very sad if people fell uncomfortable on this topic as there is so much to share and learn. (I have benefitted enormously both as a salt for people with SN, a budding ABA consultant and a parent of a child with a language disorder.)

Do you not think though that we would sniff out a loon? It is a pretty tight community.

it is amazing how long it takes moondog. as not all "loons" are obvious. it is only when they start becoming mad or posting really weird stuff that you realise.

needmorecoffee and 2shoes, you are making me feel quite chilled (and not in a good way)

(I am a long time special needs mumsnetter by the way but have had a mumsnet break and have also changed my name - coppertop and fio know who I am though)

sorry why chilled?
glad you came back who ever you are

A bit unnerved by the fact that someone is making you and needmorecoffee feel uncomfortable about posting on SN. Thanks for the welcome back, though .