I know some of you remember me - boasting time

[lingle]

Hi there sn board. I know some of you still come across my posts from 2008-2014 because I get private messages every year or so.

so my ds who didn’t understand his own name aged 3 now has a summer job as a lifeguard at the local pool. Today he had to deal with lots of rule-breakers and did his first rescue.

this is him back when: www.mumsnet.com/talk/behaviour_development/600616-is-ds2-s-musicality-hindering-his-speech-development

This is amazing 👏
well done to you and your wonderful son - this is success in its purest form

Fantastic news

I love the positive posts! They bring me so much hope.

you must be chuffed to bits.

Thanks :).
Has anyone got a time machine as I would like to send this message back to 2008 and read it (though would have to add a post-script about how much bloody work was going to be needed).

I remember your username, and this is INCREDIBLE NEWS. Well done to your son!!!! And to you of course.
Any tips gratefully received - I cannot imagine DS(10) in a position of any responsibility whatsoever...

Oh lingle! I have been a longtime lurker here and came across your posts just a year ago when it started to become apparent my son wasn’t going to talk without some help. I have gained so much from posts from your early days with Moondog, total chaos etc.
Your DS2 and mine have some similarities so this is just so lovely and encouraging to see, thank you for coming back and sharing and well done DS2

Wow that’s fab Dugga. That’s kind of you to post.
it was pretty intense on this board in those years. Unfortunately the board got such a profile there was unwanted media coverage so a few key people had all their posts deleted which makes the record less useful.

I’ve just reread the old thread…..it was indeed headfuck….ds2 plays jazz saxophone now. He likes the complexity of the solos.

Love this update, I've definitely read your posts before, it really gives me hope.

My DD is 4 and seems miles behind her peers in social skills, abstract ideas and conversational flow but she's using the toilet and we can have mini conversations about concrete, current concepts now, hurrah!

how does your lad find school Gardenoverflow?

Not too bad overall (with support), but reading comprehension/inference, social skills and self-regulation are all quite weak. Other areas seem to improve but these just drag along.

Yes, your Book and podcast recommendations have really helped as well as following along with what you were learning yourself at the time regarding receptive language etc. I saw some posts were deleted which is unfortunate, but what’s left is still great.
my own DS went from having no words last year to now, at almost 3, speaking in short sentences, asking questions and understanding and interacting so much more. He’s still a good bit behind/disordered (can’t answer ‘yes no q’s and so on) but it’s ok, we can breathe.
Great to hear your DS2 is still into his music, he seems to have so many interests. I’ve updated my husband who has heard me mention you before, it gives us hope, I wonder does DS2 realise strangers were rooting for him :)

garden.

i work with children that age with those types of challenges. [2nd job]. I get the luxury of time with them with no fixed progress points. Basically I show up and believe in them once a week.

‘I wonder does DS2 realise strangers were rooting for him :)“

i worry about what will happen if and when my boys have children of their own as this obviously runs in my family (and it’s been said to me that it’s like a dominant gene too). If I am close to future dil it will be fine but what if not? I have started to talk to them both about it. Ds2 found it helpful to realise that he’s been playing catch-up socially and probably has auditory processing issues.

sometimes I think I should print off the old threads and put them with my will.

Sounds like your boy is doing great Dugga.

you would think things would have moved on re receptive language awareness in 12 years but ds2’s old nursery leader says it’s the opposite - that sn help has been decimated.

I’m glad your little one has made so much progress. I’d forgotten how hard “yes” is for them…..

And yes, great to have strangers rooting for you when real life was sometimes more like this recent thread:

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4611361-friends-insinuating-im-a-shit-parent?page=3&reply=119250449

alternating with pity

@lingle Hi Lingle. I read and printed out many posts of yours. last year around this time I found mumsnt and your posts so very helpful. i counted the words my son spoke n understood like you did. I always wondered what your DS2 might been doing. Great news. I still read a short prayer for you n your son whenever I remember. your receptive language posts helped me pull out of my sadness , made me realise I am not alone. if one mom can do it I can too feeling made me work hard on my son.My son who is turning 4 speaks in sentences but not yet fully conversational. can correctly say yes or no, calendar entries had helped.. I wanted to defer his reception but the SLT says he cant as he is summer born.
just want to add this last bit
your posts gave me ideas to make short videos with DH like we say our names n ask him what is his .
my heart felt thank you to you n others like moondog for all the recommendations . your posts would give me hope when I got scared watching Laura Mize 😄

*it should read my son isnt summer born. He will be 4 years this month end

gosh that made me cry. thank you so much, I'm moved.

Rhubarblin - reread the thread and wanted to say "go you!" and your little one. Nice one with the toilet

I think that where a child's biology and care are such that they can "rebalance" enough to thrive in the world, then the ongoing tendencies we observed in their toddler years can become strengths.

So with the lifeguarding, for instance, the main requirement is intense concentation on something quite dull (swimmers going up and down) for long periods. And DS2 is now doing geography A-level and wants to be a public transport designer (which I think would be incredibly cool - imagine getting to build train tracks in real life).

However, these threads can be tough reading for some of us because sometimes biology is just not on our side, so sometimes we can reduce the anxiety (which I think is the primary goal) but we can't change biology.

much love to everyone.

whoops that was a name-change fail as I was feeling emotional - I will see if MNHQ can change it to lingle :)