Hi this is my first time using this website so I hope I've come to the right place.
my only child has been struggling with his behaviour on and off since he started nursery and it has gotten worse and more often the older he has got. At first i thought maybe it was just phases he would grow out of it but now he is in primary school he needs a lot of support.
He does have his education coordinated by SENCO and they offer him so much support and I couldn't fault them.
He has been on the waiting list with the NHS for an assessment but you know what the waiting list is like its horrific! i decided to go privately so he is having the assessment in May.
Now his behaviour is what i struggle with the most, ill be honest I have no clue what I'm doing or even know how to help him. I've looked into parenting classes etc but there is nothing available in my area i have researched and researched different things strategies etc but it just all seems a blur to me.
He really struggles with concentration, can have the most horrific meltdowns where he gets so angry and is unable to control his emotions , he is unable to rationalise and once he gets in that heightened rage i am unable to calm him down it can take over an hour at times, breaking things, hitting other children, shouting at adults, making horrific tantrum noises, i just don't know how to manage it.
at least 3 times a week i have a chat with his teacher where he has had these meltdowns in school, the teacher has had to remove the class from the room at times he can get that bad and it breaks my heart that i don't know any strategies to help him and that's all i want to do. he is so remorseful afterwards doesn't know why he is like this he says he just cant control it. He is a loving funny bubbly child and i hate seeing him struggle.
Are there any parents out there which a child with ADHD? how do you manage the meltdowns? how do you manage the restlessness he can never sit still? How do you bring out the best in your child? Is there any sensory things that could help him, strategies, tips anything? i just dont have a clue!
i know once he has the diagnosis i could maybe look into EHCP assessment (i dont really understand that either) and i know he will have medication as an option ( i dont understand children on medication is a good thing or bad thing either).
anybody please help me lol
from a very confused, stressed out mummy!