So angry think I am going to burst!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[blossomhill]

To cut a long story short dd goes to after school singing club on a Tuesday after school. I pick her up at 4 so can pick ds up from school normal time as I usually pick him up earlier.
Anyway got chatting to some of my friends at ds's school and we ended up staying for about half an hour then went straight to pick up dd for 4 when the singing club finishes.
Anyway I got there about 4 and another mum came over and said your **'s mum aren't you? I said "yes why?". She said "Oh it's just that nobody realised that she went to singing club and up until 2 minutes ago she has been sitting in the medical room waiting for you. they have been ringing you at home, on your mobile and even rang ds's school. Well they were ringing the wrong mobile as I have a new one and have definitely given it to them.
Eventually about 5 minutes before the club finished someone realised that she should be in singing club. Poor little love was sitting in the medical room for nearly 50 minutes. She probably didn't know what was going on
I spoke to the teacher and asked what had happenend she said as she wasn't there this afternoon there was a confusion about were dd should be.
I am very upset and disappointed. Dd has a communication problem and propably didn't know what was goong on. When we got in the car she said she didn't like singing club and that she was sitting in her own in the medical room
When I got home there was a really snooty message left by the office staff "oh Mrs **, it is 3.45 and we were wondering what's happening rang back but there was no reply and left a message saying if anyone was there could they phone me back if not I'll speak to someone in the morning.
Do you think I am right to be angry as I don't like blowing things out of proportion. I am just upset that dd was made to sit on her own and must have felt v. scared and confused. Probably thought I was late picking her up.
I just needed to get that off my chest, thanks for listening.

your poor dd, hope this doesnt happen again

Things have just gone from bad to worse unfortunately. The school senco rang me and obviously picked up on my mood as I have been feeling really down about everything with dd lately. So 5 minutes later she said something like "well you said yourself you've been down so you are obviously a bit sensitive at the moment anyway" or something like that. Then she went on to say that dd needs to learn about being disappointed -WTF ?????? The only person who is disappointed is me with the way this has been handled. They are trying there hardest to turn it round on me. Thankfully I now have an appointment with the deputy head and I shall let her know how very upset and angry I am with the way this whole this has been handled!

You are justified in being upset and to use something you have shared with her in confidence to turn it on you is unacceptable.Any parent would have been furious at that happening to their child.I could understand them maybe forgetting at home time but as time went on you would have thought it would have occured to them where she was supposed to be.
I think that they are trying to turn it on you as they are worried what further action you may take.
I am so for you.
Sending you lots of hugs

I would have been very annoyed at them leaving dd alone like that in the first place. I would be bl**dy furious at the SENCO's comment. Whether or not dd is disappointed is hardly the issue here. The fact is that a little girl was left sitting in a room alone for almost an hour because no-one had bothered to find out where she was meant to be and because the school hadn't bothered to update their records wrt contact details. The fct that dd also has SN just makes the whole despicable situation even worse. Trying to turn the situation round to make it seem as though it's a trivial matter and partly your fault because you don't usually set out to disappoint dd (and how many parents do???) is disgusting IMHO.

Can you tell I'm already angry about it and she's not even my dd?

oh, it really F***g irriatates me when they turn it round to be the parents fault. Oh i am so angry on your behalf BH

blossomhill, i'm so sorry this has happened and don't blame you for feeling upset. But the way they've behaved since has made it so much worse - are they trying to pretend they've done something positive by giving your dd a lesson in disappointment?

Why didn't they just apologise, admit their mistake and promise you that it wouldn't happen again - at least that might have made you feel a bit reassured that they really were sorry?

senco has probably realised what a big pile of shit is about to rain down on the school, and was desperately trying to find someone else to blame.