Help, I am feeling totally unreasonable

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I have an attck of the grumps today and want to kill everyone who dares complain about life with a 'normal' child. argh.
Am I normal?

I have those attacks most days.
Yes you are normal!

maybe I shouldn't read threads where they are complaining how hard life is with a toddler who makes a mess etc. I would give my eye teeth for dd to be able to move or hold something in her hands. They don't know how lucky they are. grump whinge moan

oh i have those days as well - find phoning a friend (in the same sort of situation) helps.

At least this is now hidden or someone would miss the point completely and come in and tell you that 'people are perfectly entitled to complain about their problems'.

I been having one fo those days...thiong is its now stretched into being 4 days....im blaming being hormonal

I'm extremely grateful that my children are able to hold things and walk and that they are verbal. Yes, Ds1 has difficulties (he isn't very functionally verbal for one thing), but I am grateful for the things he can do).

yeah, it has made me grateful for my other kids. I'm pleased they argue, leave lights on etc because they can. And I know norms haven't had to gain that insight.
So I know I'm unreasonable. But some days it hits harder. I do want to go on that thread and ask why are they complaining, just to see what happens
I am hormonal methinks and very tired and that makes me tetchy and argumentative.
ds1 came home from school and said he had to watch some documentary on at 9. On bloody Sky. Made me cross the school assumed that we all had a TV and that we had satellite. Its besides the point that we do!
If I drank I'd be halfway down a bottle of gin by now

Yes I get very upset at the bleating on of normal mums, who think they've got problems but don't know they're born. Worried about who gets the best part in the school nativity, or who has more violin lessons or kumon maths than their little darlings. Sometimes I go onto the other (non SEN) threads, just to see what life is like out there. Actually one of them was just quite good, as all the mners are complaining about a totally offensive sticker in Heat magazine today, saying "Harvey wants to eat me" about Jordan's disabled child. I joined in that one and we are all complaining to the press complaints commission about this tasteless "joke". Big hug to you, you're not imagining it, our lives really are harder than other mums.

ahem - I once did that neesmorecoffee (went onto a thread and told people to be grateful). That was in the early days (of mnet and disability). Hmmm I think I still bear the scars Not To Be Recommended.

we don't all complain....i promise i have a non sn dd and poss asd ds

NMC, I don't think you're being unreasonable.

Mums at school yesterday were going on about how lovely it is getting 'sleep' and how you forget those early days (kids are 6/7)

er....hello!!! I can hear you!!!!!!

I wanted to tell them to shut up and say thats some people are still experiencing 'early days ' 6 years on!!

oh yes I HATE all that 'oh sleep deprivation is so bad' stuff when people have had it for a few bloody months. Try years with no end in sight. Grrrr.

sorry to poke my nose in but are you sure it's not your situation that you are angry with not 'people'. I'm sure things aren't said on purpose to upset you - everyone complains aboput something pewople those with so called 'normal' kids are complaining about sleep etc - I complain about work sometimes that doesn't mean i mean to offend unemployed people. Christmas is a time of goodwill - if we all show it then the world wokd be a better place maybe

It really helps when you're in a crappy situation to share the thoughtless (but pleasently meant) 'wrong audience' remarks with other in the same situation. Espeically when you can only smile sweetly at the well intentioned person saying it. I presonally owuldn;t complain about work to someone who was unemployed and desperately looking for work as I wuld think it a little insensitive. Although I would perhaps complain when such a person wasn't around.

PMSL Yes that is the advantage of having a SN child- you find newborns (including lack of sleep, and lots of shouting and screaming and pooing everywhere) easy peezy lemon squeezy.

am I alone if getting fed up with the "oh poor me having to push a buggy" people. they should try pushing a wheelchair.

Oh gawds no. And the buggy stage is a few short years. Then the ones who wont fold the darn thing up on a bus when you need the wheelchair space. Their kids can stand sit etc etc

lol . we have the new on (dh on js) oh there are plenty of jobs in london(or some other miles away place) yeah so he can help care for dd from there.

There was a fight on here once about disabled people getting all the buggy spaces on buses. You would have liked that one nmc!

yurt please tell me you are joking.

I would of, being a wheelchair user myself. I can't bear selfish norms. Especially as one day they will all be old and tottery so maybe they should be a little more gracious.
Where we are, there's one wheelchair accessible bus an hour into town. The wheelchair space is usualy filled with either a norm mum who is too lazy to fold the buggy (I have had 3 walkie-talkie kids so I know its a pain but ffs) or old ladies sat on the fold down seats with their shopping trolleys. So dd is in the aisle in her wheelchair, blocking everyone trying to get on, I'm balanced on 2 walking sticks and things are going downhill fast. One day I'll just explode.