Unusual situation

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I know often parents if children with sn complain that there child is socially excluded due to those needs.

We have a bit of a reverse situation where my nt child is friends with a sn child. The children get along well and play well together, when they have an opportunity.

The difficulty is that I find that the mother of this child keeps on turning down playdates, due to her DC's sn.

The reasons are varied. She has said it's due to a phobia, to do with something in our home. I then suggest another location, and then there is another reason. We are happy to go to their house, but haven't been invited.

I'm deliberately vague as to some of the the details, in case the mother is on this forum.

Any tips in order to facilitate the friendship? Or should I just accept that the mother is not interested in maintaining?

It is sad that this dc is being held back from a friendship due to her sn.

I would possibly be frank with the mum, tell her you think they play together lovely and you'd really like to encourage their friendship, and I'd ask her to be honest and say exactly what the problem is and how she feels it can be solved, because you'd like to be friends and don't want to offend her, and you do want to work with her if you can.

I would advise if you do this, please don't take offence if you don't like the answer, or feel it is a personal attack.

Sometimes I'm so frustrated with everything that some things come out not quite, um, diplomatically, and I don't sugarcoat things, so some things come out sounding little more hurtful or abrupt to what I intend. I guess that's mostly because of how straight and matter of fact I have to be with my dcs, one needs straight logical talk, the other minimal words, neither responds well to long winded explanations

I would also tell her it is an open invitation, that is there when she/dc is ready.