I am so bored of people who are jealous of ..............

[2shoes]

blue badges.
ok i know it is a pita getting a toddler in and out of a car in a small place. been there struggled at that.
but it is short term......not for ever.
why oh why does every bloody thread about p&t spaces end up with people saying something about disabled bays.
(fed up and as this is SN I can moan on here)

Jealous of blue badges? I bet they're probably the same people who are jealous of DLA and what they think are "free new cars". Grrr!

I could just read this and burst into tears to be honest!!! While we are at it, perhaps being able to use disabled toilets is also a point for the green eyed monster too...seeing as I seem to be spending half my life squeezed into dirty smelly toilets with disgusting facilities and having people look at me as if I am mad to ask for the disabled toilets to be unlocked only to find them completely awful too!!!
Sorry, going off on loads of emotional tangents!!!

When we started getting DLA my MIL actually said "oooh how wonderful - how lovely to get compensation like that". Thn she told us that getting a blue badge was " a great bonus" ........ EH? Yes, clearly I wake up each day thinking how lucky I am to have a disabled child so that i can get so many perks, yippee, how wonderful, lucky lucky me.......

2shoes, I've just come on to reassure you that not everyone who gets pissed off over P&T parking spaces feels that. I say this as someone who frequently moans about white transits parked over two P&T spaces

I would never, ever, consider parking in a disabled space nor have I ever thought a chunk of them should be given over to P&T spaces.

I'm not sure if I should say this and forgive me if it's insensitive but when I'm up all night with them I have often thought how lucky I am that this phase will pass, as will needing a P&T space.

The people who you are referring to are the sort of people who live in their own self-obsessed little bubble. Who like to complain about everything that doesn't benefit them or make their life easier. I have to believe that most people have a lot more understanding and awareness. Grrrr!

Gosh, just read that back and I'm so sorry for ranting. I've just been for coffee with some of the mums from toddler group and I've come back feeling really dismayed and upset at the levels of ignorance and selfishness that exists in middle bloody england. Sorry again.

homemama - I agree with everything you say. No need to apologise for being able to empathise with pov expressed here just cos you're not in the same situation yrself. Haha - and mom and toddler groups frequently make me feel like ranting (or pulling out my eyelashes!)

Oh God why are people so stupid? I have been told I am so lucky because a)we get "loads of money" for DD2 (DLA and CA) b) we have a Blue Badge and c) we have recently got our brand new Motability car.

Yeah, I'm so lucky that I have a child with an incurable life-limiting genetic disorder who will be dependent on me for her entire life....

People can be unbelievable sometimes!! This sort of thing makes me see red

Don't these buffoons realise that, when its been a bad day, we would happily give up the so-called perks that come with having a disabled child if they could be well. But I must stress that when its been a bad day bit as I wouldn't swap my ds for anything, and by bad day I mean having to deal with ignorant sods like the ones mentioned in some of the postings on here, an insensitive SENCO, a horrible meeting about my ds which leaves me feeling exposed and misunderstood, a rotten hospital appointment, a crappy play park experience.. yes I think I would gladly say goodbye to the blue badge and dla if it meant not having to deal with those things again!!

I'm so glad I'm not so bitter about my life that I have to envy those who have more struggles than me because of a couple of poxy 'extras' which are in fact essential when your child has a disablity!

Yup, great way to get easier parking [not]

As out fabbo Macmillan nurse said to dh when we got ours, 'No bugger would swap places with you, not for a place to park'

I'M SICK TO DEATH OF THE ABUSE OF DISABLED BAYS.
ITS LIKE TRYING TO GET AN INTERVIEW WITH THE POPE GETTING A DISABLED BAY AT SUPERMARKET WHEN ITS RAINING BECAUSE SOME SELFISH IDIOT CAN QUICKLY RUN INTO THE SHOPS AND NOT GET WET.
THEN THEY GIVE YOU EVILS WHEN YOU STRUGGLE PAST WITH YOUR DISABLED CHILD/ADULT.
HOW LUCKY THEY ARE TO BE ABLE TO RUN INTO THE SHOP, MY DAUGHTER CAN'T EVEN WALK!.
SHAME, SHAME,.
WHAT GOES ROUND THOUGH

oh yes the jealousy is beyond me.
maybe its because growing up mobility cars have always been in our family both my nanna and my great uncle had CP and always had a mobility car, i saw firsthand the struggles they faced and they would have been housebound without their cars.
now we have a car for dd as she has CP, and we get comments from the inlaws (outlaws more like) "but that money is for dd" and "i hope you arent driving that car to work, thats a mobility car and she,s not in it when you work is she" and "what are you going to do when she,s 16 umm, wont have a car then will you" and then because we already had a car and shock-horror are keeping it so i can use it when i finally pass my test we get "theres no need to act like lord and lady muck,throwing your money around"
its like water off a ducks back now, i used to get really upset but now i just think PATHETIC

I had a "friend" once who when she saw what i was getting for my dd (DLA, CA, higher tax credits and blue badge) that she fabricated lots of lies about her ds so she could try and get all i was getting, all because she was so jelous of all the money i recieve.

The friendship ended with me telling her that no wonder it takes so long and is so bloody hard to get all these things for someone who is genuinely in need when there are people out there like her who will gladly abuse the system without a second thought to others in real need.

Sorry went off on one there.

I'v found its better not to mention DLA. Only closest family knows and one friend. These absurdly envious people dont think. DLA is very pathetic an amount really, it doesnt 'compensate' (for want to a better word) for your lost career, or for the toll on your well being. If these jealous people saw the amount of work I (or any of you) had to do they would realise that DLA is a truly pathetic sum of money...if the jealous people are so monetary minded..... heres something for them to think about: if you want to compare DLA + CA divided by number of hous spent slaving over child/ren to the national minimum wage... it works out at f**k all. There is a very good argument there for increasing DLA significantly.

I was interested in what you said about comparing dla etc to how many hours we are 'looking after' our kids.
I'e just done the sums, we get highest dla awards. including both carers allowance and tax credits - all of them not just the disability element, disregard the hours my dd is at school and we are getting approx £1.92 per hour

And we don't have a mobility car, if you're paying out of your benefits for a car you're even worse off. How anybody can be jealous of that is beyond me. It's a tiny ammount of money, especially when you consider wht we do everyday is a hell of a lot more demanding mentally and physically that most jobs.

Idiots.

Yesterday I saw a car which had stopped 'horizontally' across the disabled parking area while one of its occupants ran into the shop. It was blocking no less then three out of five disabled spaces. Now, admittedly the driver was still in the car and could have driven off had someone come who needed to use that space. But I also know that the chap I went out with who had a blue badge (and who really couldn't walk far at all) would have been far too proud to ask them to move and would've parked elsewhere and just struggled. It makes me !

I was getting us all back into the car in a car park the other day when someone asked for my pay and display ticket if I'd finished with it. I said 'oh sorry I don't have one I have a disabled parking badge' and she said 'oh lucky you'!!!! I just laughed out loud and said 'oh really, you think so do you?' and she just said 'ohhh, err, no sorry I guess not'.

To some people it's just a means to a bit of complimentary parking in more convenient spots.

They are so blinded by their own greed they don't stop to think any further.

There were some mums talking in the playground yesterday while I was waiting for dd and they were discussing how difficult it is to park near the indoor play area up the road if you are planning on going there after school. One of them piped up "Just park in the disabled bay". I know she meant it because it wasn't said in a light-hearted way at all. Anyway the look I gave her must have spoken volumes because she immediately started to back-track. "Oh ha ha, I didn't mean it". Hopefully she felt a bit guilty.

Anyone who is jealous of a blue badge needs their head examining, tbh.

I WAS AT THE DARTFORD CROSSING TOLL BOOTH A FEW WEEKS AGO AND AS THE LADY FILLED OUT THE FORM [BLUE BADGE HOLDERS FREE] A 'BLOKE' BEHIND IN A BUILDERS LOORRY YELLED AINT YOU GOT A FCUKIN POUND?? OBVIOUSLY THOUGHT I WAS BLAGGIN A SOB STORY.
IT WAS HOWEVER THAT TIME OF MONTH AND I GAVE AS GOOD AS I GOT BUT I COULD SERIOUSLY HAVE CUT OFF HIS TESTICLES AND DANGLED THEM FROM MY REAR VIEW MIRROR .
GOD AS IF OUR LIVES AINT STRESSFUL ENOUGH YOU GET ARSEHOLES LIKE THAT TRYING TO RUIN YOUR DAY OF RETAIL THERAPY.
XJ

boredverybored, have you worked out what youd be paid if you got a wage for the care work, its enlightening (and depressing).... national minimum wage is £5.35 ph (age 22+] £4.45 (18-21), £3.30, (16/17) (source HMRC). In addition, the working time directive says workers cant be foeced to work more than 48 hours (source DTI), and there are other directives dictating the amount of breakes a worker has etc etc.

I look after them willingly because they are my children, but it would take 3 and a half full time nannies to do what i do each week. And it IS work, its hard labour physically and mentally. Done for love but that doesnt diminish the fact that this is by far the hardest work i'v ever done.

I worked out that on a non-school day i work to a total of 16+ hours a day (plus the night time 'on call'. ON a school day this drops a littlen a school) day i do 3-4 hours in the morning with kids and 8 or more hours at afternoon/night, in between theres all the housework (total 12 or more hours working looking after children and 4 hours being housemaid) PLUS BEING 'ON CALL' ALL NIGHT AS WELL...all that for middle rate care(x2)& CA...hahahhahahahhahahahahahhhh (chokes)

I suspect that most of us do near enough 24/7 in actual work (incl. 'on call'), 168 hours at NMW £5.35...if we were getting paid NMW we should be paid £898.80 gross pw.

Breakes the working time directive too!

As I don't drive and get bus or train everywhere I am always a bit [hmmm] about the alleged need for P & T parking anyway, except for exceptional circumstances (say 3 mobile 13 month old triplets). But honestly, jealous of blue badges. People I have known with blue badges have had enough on their plate for me not to think it's a great perk.

salsmum we have been over the dartford crossing twice in the big van. both times the peer at the window and say how many seats. i say we have a wheelchair so they say ok £1

2 shoes
if you have a motorbility vehicle [tax exempt]
you pull up at tolls dart cross,
tjey ask for your reg plate number or they come out check tax disc to ensure your tax exempt and you go through free!

2 shoes
p.s. you tell them at the booth disabled vehicle.
oops sorry 4got.