A bit shell-shocked earlier, but it's wearing off now. Virtually all of the children from DD1's primary special school (complex needs) go to a nearby secondary special school (complex needs) for year 7. The only exceptions being children who need residential placements, or parental choice for out of LA placement (because we have two unitary authorities neighbouring us, so a school can be 'out of county' but closer to a home address).
It was always assumed that DD1 would go to school 1. In fact, it was assumed that her whole class would move up together and would likely stay as a class group throughout secondary school. She is very close to her class members and they have been together for between 4 and 7 years (some transferred in for Y3 onwards).
I was given her 'My Story' form, completed it and stated School 1 as preference for continuity and peer group. Then, her draft EHCP arrived and I was at that stage asked my preference. I once again stated school 1 for continuity and peer group. Today, I received her offer letter, stating that a place is available for her in school 2.
School 2 is a MLD school rather than complex needs, although it does take a wide range of SN including ASD.
I don't know what to think. She finds her peer group hard, but she also loves them dearly. She's very vulnerable. But it is probably academically better for her and they have a strong focus on life skills for independent living. A trusted source told me that you usually can't get places there for love nor money, so I don't want to lose a good opportunity for her. It's so hard!