2.9 yr old. Doesn't speak at home but apparently does at nursery?

[GingerFoxInAT0phat]

I have been debating whether to write this all night as its weighing very heavily on my mind.

Ds is 2.9, doesn't say any words apart from dada (not in context) Has very recently started to say 'uhoh' if he drops something. And 'tweet tweet' (more of a high pitched squeal) when he picks one of the Xmas decorations up.

He has his first speech therapy lesson in Jan after his assessment last June.

Hv saw us three months ago and said she was referring to paediatrician.

One of the nursery workers mentioned to me the other day that she had spoken to the Hv and she told the nursery worker she has decided not to refer him now and they apparently discussed how much he had come on at nursery.

I was puzzled by this as I don't feel like he had made hardly any progress. I spoke to his key worker and another member of staff and they both said he had been speaking.

After asking exactly what he says his key worker said he had been saying 'doggy', repeating words after her and she had heard the tail end of him taking to other children. The iPad footage she had of him has been deleted.

I get the feeling they are not intentionally lying but I feel very strongly that he hasn't been talking at all.

I don't even know what I am looking for here, is this common? Is there a reason they would say everything's fine, ringing Hv to tell her how much progress he has made? Is it me losing my marbles?

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Wow pandy, even I am shocked at that! How ignorant!

Well I have an update. I did take ds out of nursery and I'm eating until after Easter to start him in my older ds's school nursery which is also brand new and lovely.

We had a speech therapy session today which went amazing. I actually feel a little teary at how nice the women were. One sat and played with ds whilst the other one asked us lots of questions about day to day life.

The one who played with him came over at the end to go over her thoughts which consisted off he's a lovely little boy (preen ) but he had no contact with her and just used her as an aid to get what he wanted ie, passed her a balloon to blow up but would not look at her. And mostly that he is very much in his own world. Albeit happy world.

It has resulted in placing me on a PECs training day waiting list, putting ds on a list to start 2 days at a nursery called 'the classroom' which is catered for children with special needs and also to put him forward to the autism panel. They will also watch him in his new nursery when he starts.

They said he does have autistic traits and definitely has a communication disorder.

There was lots lots more helpful things they said but I can't remember them right now.

I have a form for dla but after looking through it, it is so so confusing! Ds's grandmother and I are going to make lots of notes and make a decent draft copy.

I do hope we get it, I'd love to get him some ABA therapy and he would also love 1 to 1 swimming lessons!

That's great news that the SALT session went so well and that 'The Classroom' has been suggested!

My little man also saw the SALT from Early Years Outreach Provision today (given by the local S&L unit) and that also went well, with the really nice therapist saying she can see my son making turn taking progress and using more language! AND what I was most pleased about is that the SALT said the Outreach Specialist Language teacher is going to do another observation of my son at his Preschool in Feb and as she is very good at her job (albeit a bit scary) I know she will reiterate to his Preschool they need to follow her advice, even if the leader does have her own thoughts on the matter! (Plus any observations are good as I have concerns about ASD and even though a specialist Language teacher, hopefully she'll pick up on any body language/behaviours that seem 'different' OR reassure in some way that S&L seems the only issue.)

Ginger, our children seem similar! My boy is very happy also and I am very grateful for that!

Keep me updated!

Xx

Ive just searched for this thread and can't believe it's been a year! (I've namechanged)

Thought I would do a little update, Ds changed nurseries and this one is so amazing, he loves going!

His speech is still very behind, and we now also have an autism diagnosis.

Reading back I can't believe the cheek of his old nursery and I actually feel really angry about how they lied. When I picked up his nursery progress book the last paragraphs were about how he was saying 'Gorilla' 'Dinosaur' and 'Tortoise' He still wouldn't be able to say those a year on!

Glad to hear the change in nursery has worked out. (I was DobbinsVeil). It's breathtaking that the nursery would actually go as far as documenting outright nonsense and I'm not surprised you're angry. I still get bursts of rage when I think about DS1s first preschool as I have to walk past it to do the school-run. And DS1 is now 11 and doesn't remember being there!

Have you got a school choice sorted?

Hi!

Yes we also walk past it on the way and I often see (glare) at his key worker in the school playground ha!

The nursery he goes to now is attached to a school which his older brother goes to so hopefully the transition won't be too bad!

Thanks zzzzz