Last post here, I'm moving to behavioural board

[Babieseverywhere]

Good news, there is nothing wrong with my DS. After an hour talking to lady who works for comm paed told us he is too chatty and shows good imagination, apparantly if it was asd he would be quieter.

I disagreed with the imagination point, as repeating what he watches on youTube is not using imagination to my mind which she agreed, but the main point still stands.....he is fine, thank goodness. :)

DS behaved just as expected never stopping still, spinning, crawling, talking none stop about Minecraft.

So that is that, I am officially a bad parent.:( Even better the school will have a letter stating that soon. Oh well, guess that will make the tutting, gossipy parents happy, as they watch me dragging my kicking screaming child into school, every morning.

I am moving back to behavioural board to see if I can get some pointers about getting my DS to school on Monday.

Lady is referring DS to SALT for a higher level language assessment and for a hearing test and a review of those meeting in four months with the comm paed.

I will be contacting school to cancel the asd unit assessment we were waiting for, as we need a referral to the behavioural unit for help getting him into school and the school can't refer to both places at the same time.

On the bright side behavioural problems can often be corrected, if I can figure out what I am doing wrong.

Thanks for listening whilst I was waiting for an appointment...turned out school, DH was right.Hope he does have friends at school, I would love to be wrong there too.

Thanks for all the posts.

I am cutting down Minecraft, especially at weekends. From Monday it will be good behaviour or no computer yield, no excuses.

Will treat DS exactly the same as the girls, as I feel I make allowances for him, as I thought he can't do things and maybe it is a won't do.

I am also handing over weekend parenting to DH. He knows how to make DS behave, great knock yourself out.

Even if I am right with my concerns, I doubt anyone will see anything, until the gap between him and his peers extents further.

I will be asking school for a list of his friends as he can"t/won't tell me and set up more play dates. Further another try and he is now 6 months older.

I use DS2's minecraft obsession as a reward in a token reward system for targeted behavioural modification. He earns tokens that are exchanged for time playing minecraft. You could try making every x steps/metres depending on his baseline level now (how far into the journey he can manage) worth 1 token so that he can earn time playing minecraft. He may need to exchange his tokens straight after school so that he can self-soothe and de-stress after a day at school.

I know you are pissed off but you can always try treating him as if he is atypical rather than treating him as if he were NT just in case.

Uber parenting strategies do not cause harm. NT kids lap the techniques up - they are unbelievably successful.

I like the idea of screen tokens. Will try that.

Babies, where do you live? If you don't mind saying. I am going through a similar thing, although I have school and education psychologist fighting for a diagnosis. CAMHS can't decide.