So I'm officially a Home Educator :O

[lougle]

After my meandering, indecisive, hand-wringing thread, I thought I'd update you all to say that I deregistered DD2 today!

So we are officially Home Educating her. Today she's been with Daddy to the Barber's shop to watch him have a hair cut, bought some lovely flowers and a card for her teacher, watched the baby coots from the bridge over the village pond, visited Nanny and Grandad and generally enjoyed being stress-free.

After school she took the flowers and card to her teacher and wished her a lovely trip tomorrow (she was due to go on a school trip tomorrow but decided that it wasn't worth having to go to school for another day just to get a trip to a country park).

I'm hopeful that she'll start to relax now. Thank you all for listening to my rumblings - it really helps to share it with People Who Know.

Awesome!! Well done you

I hope she de stresses and you all enjoy HE

Would love to join you but need to just hang on a little longer to see if Dd3 gets a statement/copes at secondary.

Good luck

Thanks Ineed - I think you're doing exactly the right thing. You're so close to getting the right level of support in school, so it would be silly to have fought that far then not see if the result is worth having.

For us, the fact that we're only in Year 2 and have made very little progress since last year when we first asked for her to be looked at, actually made the decision more simple for us in the end. We've got nothing, so nothing to lose. DD2 could most likely get back into the school if she wanted to (rural).

It's a relief that it's finally done.

brilliant if i could go back in time i would do the same for ds2 . youve done the right thing i would say , hope it works out well
have some celebratory

I agree and the next few weeks seem to be more out of school than in anyway so we will just ride it out with a few extra pinched days and see what happens in September. At least I am not under the illusion that she has to go to school anymore

Well done for taking the plunge, lougle.

Well done, lougle (that sounds patronising, and it's not meant to!)

I hope your dd2 can relax and destress a bit. I've just received the full report on my dd2, and was going to offer to share the schools advice bit, but not necessary now (happy to if you're interested).

and an hats off to you - HE is not for me and I am in awe of your decision.

Oh Lougle it's fab

I deliberately didn't comment much while you were meandering and hand-wringing; I just felt I couldn't add much. But now you've done this for her it just seems, well, so right. From what I know/have seen of her I just know this is going to be wonderful, that you are going to be wonderful for her. She will be happy and ergo: she will learn. I bet she has had a wonderful day.

Have some celebratory

I too am in awe.

I knew you lot would get it

You know that hand-wringing about socialisation ??

Today she has met and talked to:

A man in his late 60s/early 70s (a barber)
A lady in her 50s (a shop keeper)
A young woman in her 20s (a flower seller)
Nanny and Grandad
A family friend in his 40s
Her old teacher

All in one day, when we actually weren't doing 'much'. Just mooching around doing what we needed to do, etc.

Well done. I think you have done the right thing

I was on your meandering, indecisive, hand-wringing thread. at the time I was also seriously considering home ed for my DD too. Well I deregistered from school last week (also my DS too, but that's a whole other story) and already I can see that it was absolutely the right decision for her, just as I'm sure that it will be the right thing for your DD2

That's awesome news lougle, here's to square pegs finding their own comfortable custom-fit holes

What do DD1 & DD3 think? Happy for her, or interested in getting a piece of their own HE action?

Lougle, I read your thread and I'm so glad you took the plunge. Sounds like your dd had a great day

It's a total relief, Polter Although it was a tad uncomfortable when I was saying to the SENCO 'oh and one day she may want to return....' and DD2 said (in a quiet but very audible whisper) 'never&'.

Caislean - Congratulations

ugger I would never remove DD1 - she is having an awesome education at special school. We're truly lucky there. DD3 is also thriving at school right now, so unless something amazingly dreadful happened, I can't see us deregistering her.

Hooray!

Thanks Star

DD1 and DD3 have (at the moment) completely taken it in their stride, tbh.

DD1 says 'I can't be a home learner because I need special help and you don't have enough teachers.'

DD3 was a little stunned when she realised that DD2 would be 'learning at home' (the decision was made at 8.20 this morning, finally, so no notice) and her eyes welled up, but then she gave them a quick rub and smiled. She went in to school beautifully, giving me a big kiss goodbye, and when she came out she said 'These are for you, DD2': she'd drawn a picture, made a clown face, and found some stones for DD2 to add to her collection. I almost burst with pride.

In what way, does an emphasis on 'socialising' with only other people born within 6 months of you either side, prepare you for adult life?

I really do feel happy. Must sleep though, because the small person will be home all day!

Just out of interest as I am new to all this, what rules are there with HE? Do you have to do a certain amount of stuff per week? Are you monitored at all?

Not planning to HE with my DD - I'd be pretty rubbish I think! - but just interested how it works (being nosey!)

Well done Lougle, very brave of you. Hope all goes well x