signs of aspergers/asd in girls

[babyjane67]

Cam someone tell me what the signs of aspergers/asd is in girls?
I have a5&half yr old dd who ive had niggles about on&off fir a while
Tia

Sorry not been back till now.She never liked playing with other kids when she was really young,like 3/4 but she got out of this when she started school.She spoke very articulately early and I must say would be the very same as regards never getting hyped up over Christmas/birthdays..its like they are a non event for her.

It was really when she hit the teens that the gulf between herself and peers really widened..she was just was so different to the others.She had no interest in fashion,makeup/boys/music etc.She also found she couldn't really relate to her peers much as in she found the chit-chat difficult/became very shy and withdrawn/had no interest in going to town shopping at the weekends like her friends do so she ended up rarely doing anything outside of school.

It is certainly my experience that it is after the age of around 12 that the real issues became apparent.
She is doing ok now as the school have been wonderful and very supportive and she is gradually improving a bit overall.She is still very shy in shops,relating to shop assistants,waitresses etc and it is a work in progress really.

I really wish I had had niggles when she was 5 though!You are on alert and very aware of ASD so I think your dd will be fine as you will be able to get her early support if necessary.
Good luck OP.

Thanks cherryberries
Just wish if thats the roght word that school could swe some of it too!
&dp&other family members who will prob wonder what the hell im talking about when i start stating my concerns!
When we came home from school friday a friend of ours was in his garden&we could obvioisly see him
Dd spotted him&ran straight past him without looking at hom or saying a word!
Now she knows him&she is always bit shy with hom&sometimes she wont spk but other tines she will
Shes like that with a few men we know including family members but has never ran past them to deliberately avoid spking to them!
I said to her after you did that so u wouldnt have to talk to him didnt u?
Yes she said!
Yesterday we had a friend over to play shes21monhhs yoinger than dd
they were playing fine but every now&again dd would say shes not playing properly or she hurt me or she wont let me have such&such etc
When they played on trampoline things were ok till dd wanted to show her how to do a forward roll
Friend wasnt taking any notice of her&dd kept saying watch me watch me&then burst into tears&got upset cux yhe girl wasnt listening to her&doing what she was saying!

well we had dds parents eve last night&she told us that shes getting on ok but that she has trouble focussing on one task&is easiky distracted.
doesnt listen&so forgets what shes sposed to be doing
so teacher sits dd by her at her feet to help her focus
also yold us that though shw has alot of friends&is strating to make some friendships she finds it difgicult to initiaite play eg asking another child uf she can play wit them or join in with a group.like shws too shy/scared to ask
also that she finds it easier to work in a small group than a large one/whole class situation
she still has probs with hypermobility such as balance is still quite bad.teacher askes us if shes under physio so could suggest some exercises that couls help.physio dischatged her agea ago
also still probs with pencil grip which theyve now provided a special pencil grip ti share between achool&home
getting dressed/undresed is still an isaue too but getting better
the focussing/not listening issues&being scared to initiate play has never been mentioned before
&its compounding the worries I already had
dp doesnt think theres anything to worry about&that shes doibg fine
ive written it all down in diary
its difficult to know how much ia 'normal'behaviour&how much isnt!
sorry for long post&typos!

shameless bump

I dont know if polter or anyone is still out there but just need some input into what teacher has told us really
did have quick chat with a helper in dds class who takes her&3others to do bits of gym etc&she asked me how parents eve went
she said shes very confident doing the gym stuff&a lovely little girl
I didnt have chance to ask her about anything else though
I think its gonna be hard work getting dp on board to as he doeant think theres anything to worry about

thanks polter
ive got to download the app onto new phone then I can read them properly lol
trouble is im up&down myself as to dds 'troubles' or not!
I go from yes theres something wrong&i should refer to but is there? shes prob just quirky but fine!