signs of aspergers/asd in girls

[babyjane67]

Cam someone tell me what the signs of aspergers/asd is in girls?
I have a5&half yr old dd who ive had niggles about on&off fir a while
Tia

It does feel scary. But I can honestly say once you've started and professionals start saying "oh yes" or school suddenly starts seeing it and support is provided you then get a good feeling. You don't feel good that your child has difficulties but good and more confident in the fact they will get some support and personally I began feeling like it was Ok to allow DS some random behaviors and felt the end to stop trying to 'change' and 'correct' him.

I sound like a terrible parent but what I'm saying is I've felt an acceptance that I struggled to find before - as in I know it's nothing I'm doing (or not!)

Now that soneones actually agreed that there is something to worry about i mean
Not that youve made it scary!
One of the most scary things is gonaa be broaching it with dp as he never picks up on anything like that&will prob poo poo it saying theres notjing wrong wiyh her!
BUT i was right about her being hypermobile.i was the obe who picked up on it&asked gp for referral but we had all noticed something was up cuz ahe was very late to walk,never crawled etc so in tjat way was easier to spot i guess
Will have to take deep breath&do it though i know

Thanks poltergoose that might be alot easier!

I too think there is enough there to ask for a referral. (Btw I have dd1 with dx of autism)

I cant seem to find or get into any links with this on yhe hsa site

Fancyanolive how old was yr dd when you started having concerns&how long til diagnosis?

managed to get into the links on laptop in the end!thanks
theres a lot of good info there&have also found other sites after googling
I also ordered the out of sync child book today so will read that too
does she have to be doing these things ive mentioned every day to be able to get a referral?
the 'tired thing'she does every day but some of the others she doesn't!
would it help to video any of them as well as keeping a diary?

ok thanks for that :)

Well i had a quick chat with dds teacher at pk up time yest about the fine motor skills probs shes having
Ie holding a pen correctly
She said that a pencil grip will help but that we can talk about it properly at parents eve2wks today!
She said that shes really pleased with her though especially when you think of wjere she was in sept(she couldnt write at all really.could just about do her name but was hard to rwcognise unless you knew)
She said dd has a different kind od grip but ghat it works for her
She also said that her gross motor skills are comkng on too&the kind of pe exercisea theyre doing seem to be helping&'bringing her on'
she asked me if i had any worries cuz she hasnt&aa we were in middle of the playground i didnt wanna say anything about any sensory stuff so said not really
So she said we'll talk about it more at parenta eve
So im doubting myself now&wondering if im just seeing stuff that isnt there&doing dd an injustice bless her!

I doubt your imagining it - HFA and AS are not described as being hidden disabilities for no reason. And be use thee children Re high functioning they know to some to degree how to behave in front of others and so we do see a lot of it at home. Also people don't always realise the social communication side of it is in play - they may never really see the child communicate with their peers, playing social games etc. How would a teacher know what clothes they are sensitive too - as they go to school in things they'll accept etc! Bare in mind this when your talking to teacher - ask her to consider why she doesn't see these things - is it because it's not not likely to occur in school?

Thanks youarewinning
Afer talking to her it just made me feell a bit like i was imagining it all as she was so nothings worrying me about her type thing!
Dd hasnt really got any clothes issues
She might moan about her socks hurting her sometimes or her knickers going up her bum lol but thats about it with that!
she usually moans about her trainers when we have to put them on once a wk for outdoor pe saying they wont go on properly&she cant do them but that can hapoen with any child!
I was watching her play a bit in playground yest(ive not long started a dinner lady job there)&after walking round with me for few mins she went&played with another girl in her class 'you be the wolf&i'll be yhe dog'so she was barking at her&chasing her!
a couple of others in her claas joined in(a boy&a girl)&shortly after were complaining to me that they didnt like dd doing it&hhey ran away from dd!
Dd still chased them barking for few mins then gave up&carried on playing it with first girl!
Dd used to play with this particular boy alot at first but last couple of wks shes come home saying he doeant wanna play with her anymore&since working hherw have seen him saying no i dont wanna play wiyh you go away!
Again alot of this can happen with any child so i just dont know!
The out of sync child book came yest so i have started to read that&also staryed my diary
Theres a couple of things in book hhat could be dd but equally alot that isn't
Its all quite confusing cuz i wanna do whats right for dd but not get it wrong&think theres something wrong when theres not iyswim?

If youre out there poltetgoose what do you think?

Thanks again poltergoose :)
No i didnt realise any of that.hadnt read it before but its very insightful!
I will stick with the bo
ok&observing dd writing diary etc
We are the only ones who can fight their corner arent we?

I asked dd about her day when i picked her up yest&she said 'i cried cuz x snatched the track off me then pushed me couple of times'
So i said 'did u cry lots or were u big&brave?'
"I cried lots&teacher(not her usual one)gave me the rabbit to cuddle in class.youre not allowed to take it outside'
So i said 'oh dear tjats a shame'
Then she said 'i cried in pe too cuz y&z were cheating in tennis'
So i said 'oh thays not good.did it make u feel cross?'
'Yes'she said &i told teacher(agaim not usual one)&she said get out yhe way im trying to help q play tennis!'
&that was it!
i wasnt told any of yhis by any teacher but am thinking maybe i should have been!
I will be writingg it in diary&keeping an eye&ear out for anymore of it

Yea bless her :)
She was late coming into playgrouns today so only wwandered round with me&didnt play with anyone but she did sy she played bugs bunny with one of the girls in her class earlier lol

Sorry to come in a bit late. I think there is nothing in what I read that would rule out ASD. The thing with girls on the spectrum is that they can appear to be doing very well at you daughter's age. I think that traits can become more obvious later on (around 9 years old and beyond) when the social demands become bigger in their peer groups. What you ought to bring forward to professionals is whether her behaviour is causing any problems to herself or her family. e.g: anxiety, violent tantrums, extreme meltdowns, refusal to do simple task leading to meltdown and if her difficulties are getting in the ways of everyday life (e.g you have to organise your life according to her needs or is it affecting the general happiness of the family/ your daughter). I think it is brilliant that you are aware of ASD. It means you can start reading up and catering for her needs (e.g: teach her how to behave around her friends and point out how she can join in with the games).

Thanks mollyweasley
I cant say that we have to organise our livesaround her or anything like that
Shes also doesnt have violent outbursts
Its very difficult to know if it IS something or if its just, for want of a better word 'normal'kids stuff

DD ,16,has a dx of Aspergers and used to do the talking between pens/loo rolls etc.We used to call them ' conversations'! She was only dx a year ago and looking back to when she was young , these 'conversations' were the first sign anything was amiss.

Thats interesting cherryberries
Do u mind me asking what other triaits she had?
Has she always spoken well from a young age too?
Dd has from being about18months 2

Thinking about it she never really gets exited about anuthing.
Like the run up to christmas most of her classmates were getting exited,writing their lists for santa&eagerly telling everyone what they wanted etc but dd didnt really do any of that
it was me talking about it&asking her what she wanted etc that then made her talk about it
I had to sit down with her to make her list out
She wasnt lije her peers making long lists of this that&the other
She askes for3things in all
It was loke she wasnt really bothered or making the effort to be bothered cuz i was iyswim
The first thing she asked for was a thimble!lol
Shes same witj her birthday too
She doesnt get 'hyped uo'particularly
It might not mean anything but have been tjinking about yhat

Very proud mummy moment!
Dd came home with a certifiacte today for writing!
She didnt tell me mind an older child did so i asked her what she'd done today&she never mentioned it!lol
I had to ask her if she'd had assembly this morn&she said yes
Oh yes i got a certificate mummy!
So i said thats wonderful love what for?
I cant remember!she says shall i go get it&show u?
Yea please!
So ahe did blesa her!lol
Yhen when i picked her up to come home she took it out&showed3different mums from her class!lol