"I would try a behaviour programme only for at least 6 months. If it is a genuine anxiety disorder, than you may need a behaviour analyst to work alongside a psychiatrist. "
This is what really worries me about the ABA approach to so-called high-functioning children or those with AS.
Often, as they get older, these children are more than capable of explaining what causes the anxiety and what makes them feel better.
It seems to me, however, that ABA has very little to offer such children. Instead, it turns to 'functional analysis' to try and discover what is causing the anxiety when it is, with respect, bleeding obvious and particularly obvious if you asked the child, i.e. I can't cope in the class.
But that is not the answer anyone seems to want to hear. So, for example, with a child who has high levels of anxiety at school, six months could be spent analysing and 'obtaining data' to try and find an 'ulterior' motive for the behaviour e.g. he wants to read somewhere quietly and you are reinforcing the behaviour by letting him.
To me, this is where it all gets very 'normalising' particularly when you start mentioning that a 'psychiatrist' needs to be involved if your methods fail.
Why?
Why if your methods fail does a child need a psychiatrist? Why is the problem located in the child? What about promoting diversity and the Equality Act?
Sometimes people are different. If you can find a way of supporting the child by placing the child in the right environment with the right support and you allow the child to develop a sense of their own identity and individuality and let them know it is ok to do things differently, you may end up with a mentally well, empowered adult.
My son was seen by an ABA consultant who was seemingly well-trained by a leading autism charity who runs a specialist autism school. He didn't have a clue about dealing with a child who could speak for himself and didn't spend any time talking to him. His whole agenda was to avoid 'labels' like 'anxiety' but to apply his own negative labels to the 'behaviour' which ended up with a situation where he sat telling my son he had to do as he was told and couldn't pick and choose and it had to listen to the teacher who was trying to force him into class.
I was there and I regret watching this and not doing anything. I sacked the person soon after they produced a £600 report listing all the data someone else could gather and suggested crap like 'speaking time' for my son so he could be taught when he could speak to adults. After we had spent 2 years trying to encourage my son to speak up in school.
It was all centred around what the adults wanted.
Six months later my son is one of the rare children who has a package where he has to be educated out of school because he cannot cope with school.
This is not because he needs 'psychiatric' help but because what is a 'normal' experience for most, is traumatising for him.
Now he is a mentally well, independent child who can develop at his own pace not at someone else's. Time can be spent teaching him what he needs to be the person he should be, not what he needs to keep him quiet and cope with school
Nothing in what you say reassures me about ABA and Asperger's.