Jimjams

[MrsGerrard]

Have just seen ghosty's post about you definitely not coming back.

I for one think that this is a huge loss not only to me personally but to the whole of mumsnet. You have selflessly, even though having more than your hands full, gone out of your way to help and advise people on so many occassions.

I think mumsnet is a sadder place for not having you in it

Blossomhill

I agree. I think you're the least bitter person I've ever spoken to JJ.

Agentshh - there are of people who've left over the last few months. Hairy obviously doesn't want to be outed, as is her perogative.

have i missed summat?

hairy isnt JJ, hairy is a namecvhanger but doesnt want to be revealed. think she said she wanted a fresh start on here.

i m lost
no one thingks it was me?
i was hoity then spent an evenign not talking to dh

i did think you were dumbfluff (poisson), but yesterday really confused my brain !! im still confused

ohg od no
was only playing

i prentende to be hoity as a parody of those "im leavign threads" no link to anythign else

Cod you stupid fish...............

No one thinks it was you, bumfluff could type to well and too fast to be you.

And this, well this is just the pits, and what worries me is that the op who posted as JimJamsisback, must be a regular in order to know that JimJams had gone. IYKWIM

poisson, yesterday evening someone started a thread pretending to be Jimjams and said she was back. A number of people said welcome back etc. Then another troll/name changer appeared and said a few really unpleasant things about mumsnet etc. The real Jimjams (Jimjams2) then posted saying she was only back temporarily; she said she had reported the thread. I don't know how far it got before it was deleted.

Someone pretended to be Jimjams??

Good luck with everything, Jimjams. Let us know if there's anything we can do to help with the new business etc. Thanks for all the help and advice. xxx

mercy why had she gone ayway?
did i miss that too?

Oh dear
Fio , giddy said it all. Don't feel bad, Jimjams knows she is sorely missed and can choose to come back to a warm welcome whenever she feels like like it.

erm
why had she gone in the first place?

iT WAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH THE THREAD ABOUT EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE A SPECIAL NEEDS Child that went a bit skewiff. I'm not sure of all the details. sorry about caps!

Jimjams would get a welcome so warm she'l need protective clothing!

And if anymore trolls or serial name changers come on here causing trouble then be warned,I have a pack of hungry beasts and I will let them loose to hunt you down.

I have finally got round to reading the other thread from start to finish. I don't really know what to say about it so I won't say anything much but I couldn't see anything wrong with it and nor could most people. SN is a refuge for many of us to rant and therefore doesn't reflect how we go about our normal lives, in fact it can help us to go about them.
What I will say is that Jimjams has always posted on MN to GIVE support and information. Even stuff she's said a thousand times she will post again from someone who has missed it or someone who is new. She does not just come here to GET advice and support she GIVES it all the time, regardless of what is going on in her RL. She will also start threads asking for ideas and help or telling us what is the latest with her family and DS1 in particular. So she mixes up giving and taking from MN, but she mostly gives. I can quite understand that you get to a point when you just think "why bother?", if its not appreciated or even noticed and you get a hard time...... let someone else do it for a change. However, it is hard for someone like Jimjams to switch into selfish and uncaring mode and I truly doubt if she will be able to do it. I sincerely hope that she stays on MN, she is my longest and best friend here.
Personally I just don't have the time or inclination to post as much as I used to but I still want to drop in a post when I can and when I want to, especially if it helps someone or gives me a good laugh (the two functions of MN!). No-one on here has any idea of what is going on in my life with DS other than Jimjams and Fio (I wonder why those two, something to do with being nice, kind, interested people?). Things are at a very serious stage here for DS although I am actually having more time to myself and doing less SN-orientated stuff than I have for years, a new phase of letting go.
THe funny thing is that I don't really get many offensive or annoying comments from people. THe general public take one look and steer clear, that's if we are ever out in public which is pretty rare! Family and friends are either wonderfully tactful or not that interested (immune), that's fine with me, better than stupid comments. Anyway, that is rather irrelevant, but I think we need to keep SN going as it can make such a difference to so many of us.
Droning now, not sure what to say.....

Excellent post Davros.

It was an excellent post Davros, and I f I were to start up an appreciation society of mumnetters, you would be up there with Jimjams, Fio, and Jenk, becuase of everyone your the 4 who have offered sound advice when I've needed it.

I hope one day, when I'm old hat at all this I'll be able to help others in the way I've been helped.

Can I just own up, if it helps, that I was 'dumbfluff' on the spoof thread yesterday. It was genuinely meant to be a joke and not meant to hurt people. I'm sorry if it did.

I wasn't any other namechanger, and I certainly wasn't the person who pretended to be jimjams, that's a totally different thing. I know I am one of the people who upset her/Fio by criticising the title of the other thread, and I wish I had kept my mouth shut. I feel awful that I might have contributed to someone leaving who is so badly needed here. I hope she reconsiders.

I don't think that it was just the last thread that has made Jimjams leave MN.

She has always been a very warm, supportive, helpful person who has been endlessly helpful to people on mn.

I remember some 3 years back I was having all sorts of behavioural probelms with ds, I was worried that he had asd....the school also had worries. I posted asking for help, and bless her she was there and put my mind to rest.

On;y many months after the event did I realise that what I was asking her to do was to re-assure me that my sone wasn't like hers. How utterly insensitive and crass I was to ask someone in JJ's position to do this for me.

And not only did she do it for me, but she did it for so many people. What must this have cost her, emotionaly?

And then she has endlessly spoken on the vax issues, every time taking insensitive comments and crassness in her stride. She even saw the effect this was having I think....changed her name to try to keep off the vax threads. What must all of that cost her?

We all argue about niff naff and trivia, but these things were at the core of JJ's life.....her darling and beuatiful ds1.

I don't think that you can take that sort of stress on the internet all day and then cope with jimjams real life.

I will miss her dreadfully, but I can understand why she has gone, and I only marvel that she did so much good for so ling.

If you read this JJ, I hope you don't think I am being a prat!

MB that is brilliantly put - sums it up exactly. She gave and gave and gave and gave - to everyone, regardless of their opinons.