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Quick update for anyone who remembers me

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devientenigma · 05/10/2013 21:08

DS starts his new school on Monday. They are hoping by Christmas he will be there majority of the time!

It been a long hard slog and 4 years of isolation but hopefully slowly my family and I can rebuild our lives.

No tribunal needed from special school to independent specialist placement.

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PolterGoose · 05/10/2013 21:10

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devientenigma · 05/10/2013 21:12

Thanks Polter, tbh I feel really sick about it xx

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mumgoingcrazy · 05/10/2013 21:13

Wow fantastic news. You've gone through so much, well done you xxx

senmerrygoround · 05/10/2013 21:13

I am so happy for you Smile Thanks

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devientenigma · 05/10/2013 21:13

Oh since when did we have Cake omg I must of been away ages! Still unsure about returning as I feel I am mostly avoided but hey ho, soon I might have a life lol

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devientenigma · 05/10/2013 21:15

Thanks MGC and sen xx

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bialystockandbloom · 05/10/2013 21:18

Well done dev, wish him - and you - all the best for his start on Monday. Really hope he settles well - each day at a time eh. Keep us posted on how he gets on. You're as much a part of this board as anyone, don't stay away! Cake and also Wine at this time on a Saturday night Wink

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devientenigma · 05/10/2013 21:20

Thanks bialy, the hardest thing they will have in the beginning is getting him to leave the house, I do feel so worried about but tbh can't wait till he's out the door like everyone else going to school, even if it isn't all day.

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ouryve · 05/10/2013 21:31

I was actually thinking about you, the other day. That's great news!

NoHaudinMaWheest · 05/10/2013 22:10

Fantastic news. I hope all goes well especially the tricky beginning.

lougle · 05/10/2013 22:38

Oh my word - that is wonderful news!

Be kind to yourself as you all adjust.

namechangeregular · 05/10/2013 23:08

That's great Smile. How does ds feel about it?

Handywoman · 05/10/2013 23:12

that's fab news dev Thanks best of luck for this new chapter

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bochead · 06/10/2013 05:53

honking for ya!

Do let us know how he gets on. I love success stories, as they help keep me sane on down days.

AgnesDiPesto · 06/10/2013 06:59

brilliant news dev, and good to have you back

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devientenigma · 06/10/2013 08:14

Wow, thanks everyone.

He doesn't know yet, he will just get all anxious about it so we are just going to tell him (if he asks) that we are having visitors. The school he's going to tell all the kids it's not school and they don't do work.

Still dreading it, I hope it doesn't take him forever to like it. After all it's a personalised curriculum in his own classroom with minimum interaction with peers.

I had his annual review with his old school on Friday. I let the heads know how much the last 7 year has affected my family as a whole, how we had missed out on siblings childhoods with dealing with one child and how they themselves missed out due to his needs and that something should of been done earlier. The deputy didn't like it and left. If they think that's the last of me they are wrong!! Although hopefully things will be sorted for DS they can't treat parents like this so I am going to make official letters of complaint.

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namechangeregular · 06/10/2013 09:01

I'm sure he'll get to like it in time - it will be so much better for him than the last place. How typical that the deputy head walked out when you expressed your views - I have had similar responses and even threats after complaining. Stick with it as, although it's too late for your ds, it may make a difference for other children in the future.
My ds is now at a specialist school and the difference in approach is incredible We had some ups and downs to start with but now can see the progress he's making.
It's a new start for you too and I hope it all goes well.

streakybacon · 06/10/2013 09:08

Well done and good luck. I hope it all goes well for ds and he settles soon.

Ineedmorepatience · 06/10/2013 10:20

Yay!! Hope everything goes well and he settles in ok Smile

sweetteamum · 06/10/2013 10:25

Well done to you and your ds. I hope his first day goes well. I'm sure you'll be nervous. But in time it'll be worth all this stress you've had to go through.

Bluebirdonmyshoulder · 06/10/2013 10:25

Congratulations!

I'm sure you've been 110% instrumental in this progress so well done.

chocnomore · 06/10/2013 10:31

good luck. I hope it goes well Smile

RippingYarns · 06/10/2013 10:34

Only just seen this here as well, dev, brilliant news!

Get tucked into that cake, you can work it off on another DVD later :-D

MariaBoredOfLurking · 06/10/2013 15:31

Ooooooh!

Grin That's amazing!

Bet you're cr*ing yourself though. All this time holding it together, all this time struggling through unaided. And now, finally, something that seems like it could actually work.

You know that complaint? Save it for a bit, wait till he's nicely settled and doing well in the new place... they'll openly defend their actions to the hilt either way, but his success elsewhere may dent their self belief a little. And revenge is a dish best eaten cold...

(a nice pic of him happily engaged in learning will pop their internal excuses very nicely: mini-dev was just too difficult to help, nothing pleases that deviantenigma, some families bring it on themselves, yadda yadda)