Not allowed to talk about anything to do with DD's school on any social networking sites.....

[StarlightMcKenzie]

And I have to sign something to say that a)I won't, and b)I acknowledge I could be prosecuted.

Any thoughts?

I'm a bit worried about sending dd to a school with such a gagging order.

And, have I just breeched the terms and conditions already?

That's what I think amistill - it's not about the home visit, it's not about the contract - it's about their attitude which is already showing them in a pretty unaccommodating light.

However, I suppose DH could be right - but before I signed anything I would want to know what had brought about the need for the contract, why they wouldn't reschedule the home visit and what would happen in the situation you described. As you say, all schools have their failings I'm sure - but I'd need to know they could do this as a bare minimum before I settled a child there.

Starlight how involved with DH be with school once DD starts? How much will he be affected by it compared to you? (In terms of them not meeting your or DD's needs rather than DD not being happy).

Sorry to hear of additional stress which you definitely do not need.

FWiw, dd now attends the school that I fought to get ds out of. It was a horrendous fight which became a little personal and I really worried about sending dd there. However, my dd sounds just like yours, autumn born, articulate, interested etc and although I don't like her teacher (cos I am still struggling with what ds endured), I have to admit they are really accommodating in dealing with dd - but then dd is part of their desired cohort.

So, this school might actually turn out to be okay...fingers crossed.

I don't know how involved he will be. ATM (summer term) he is able to take her to school every morning on the way to work and occasionally help out in the classroom for trips etc. This is likely to be the case most summer terms because of the nature of his work. It also means that he can take the pressure of my competing demands at this time of year.

So send her as it's not worth marital discord. If it does turn into a DFS then it'll be next summer it'll come to a head & he'll be around to deal with it himself lol!

Just "lose" the letter re social networking, OR refuse to sign it saying "if you have nothing to hide........." depending on how bolshy you are feeling. I flat out refuse to sign anything that reduces my own personal freedoms just as a point of principle, thin end of the wedge and all that. Too cynical to risk getting bitten in the behind 5 years down the line when a "situation" crops up and I've forgotten all about some daft form I signed back in the day.

In my case I'd shrug my shoulders and say I didn't think it applied to me as I'm not on face book, and then helpfully thrust the medical form under their nose as a sign of my eager but dumbness .

tryingtokeepintune that's my situation as well...I won the Tribunal for DS2 just as they were constructively excluding DS1. It has led to alot of money being spent on therapy to persuade DS2 that DS1's troubles didn't all stem from him (DS2) starting school!

I think the 'don't chat on Facebook' letter is an over-reaction to something that has happened in the past, as someone said up-thread. It's a ridiculous thing to be asked to sign, but if you're talking about the school under an assumed name, and without actually mentioning the school name, they would hhave a hard time proving you were doing it...wouldn't they?

They've apologised that I found them insensitive and have forward my comments to the CT.

I suppose I just thought that past was behind. DD's nursery teacher is absolutely amazing. I spent a long time wondering if it was an illusion and she would have failed ds, but I have seen her in action with children with needs, and I have heard from their parents. She has really restored my faith (not in teachers in general, but in humanity and some teachers) and so I was kind of hoping the past was just a bad dream.