God what do I do with my poor DS?

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He couldn't get to school at all today. He has only been going in for part of the day with me. He was wailing and crying about putting his uniform on and how he can't cope.

Where do we go from here? His third school. One period of HE already. School will do whatever they can but he can't cope and I worry I am damaging his mental health.

He finds it so hard to explain how he feels but he can';t cope with kids at school. We went to a special school to look around yesterday and he wouldn't look in the classes and got visibly stressed out at a glimpse of a child in a far off corridor.

What do you do?? CAMHS? HE? This can't go on.

My green skirt WILL NOT FIT, and I cannot last a whole dance these days

OMG I LOVE that staff uniform!

lol

What a top video!

I love this thread!

It is al your lovely help and perspective what's done it. Seriously, just taking a few steps back from the daily crap gives you a sense of control and to see DS being so happy today was great.

DS has chatted about war hammer to DS2 all evening and they have been happy little brothers

Your happiness and humour since you made the decision to take him out speaks volumes to me IE.
I was the same.
So glad your son is happier already.
The only way is up from here :)

See. My parents took us out of school for 6 weeks to peform at Disney World.

Them both being teachers (probably obvious. We all had to carry disney passports and my dad had a special approval stamp for his beard) and everything so school obviously aint all that.

Anyway, thanks for letting me share that video and little whinge, and for your confidence in me as a HEer.

I hope that your ds goes from strength to strength with the new arrangement IE, temporary or not.

And great that things are going so well justa!

"I hate dance"

Something DS1 wouldn't argue with. He's completely anti sport, too. No PE please.

We can wear him out by stealth. Lots of walking (though that's getting harder for me) and lifting and just being generally busy, busy busy.

Sheldon:

Penny, while I subscribe to the "Many Worlds" theory which posits the existence of an infinite number of Sheldons in an infinite number of universes, I assure you that in none of them am I dancing.

''The Gothowitz Deviation''.

We often mutter (sotto voce , of course) "Sorry, Sheldon" when a dictat has been issued.

That early episode when Sheldon sits in different places in the cinema, testing the acoustics? That's what got us hooked, because DS1 used to do that in cavernous buildings, multi-storey carparks, etc :o

Another Sheldon here, but at least now he can take the mickey out of his Sheldon-ness and laugh at himself.

He admits that he doesn't have imaginary friends, only imaginary colleagues .

Ds will definitely not be joining any dance class. He was once excluded from a disability social club for not joining in with a dance activity (there was no choice), after responding with the mother of all meltdowns .

No singing either, if that's ok. Mind you, that would come as a relief to everyone else if you heard him.

Oh, I love BBT!
(We have the box set)
:)
Singing and dancing for those that would like it.
Welding and lathe turning for those that wouldn't :)

Maybe we could have Sheldon's Green Lantern t-shirt for the student uniform .

Loving the staff garb, you groovy babes .

Another Sheldon here, but at least now he can take the mickey out of his Sheldon-ness and laugh at himself.

After his Saturday night up-chuck, DS1 was unusually lucid on Sunday. I joked about whatever he'd eaten that had upset his tummy probably joining the long list of foods he refuses to eat. He joked back "Yes, it's item 358a."

This boy is going to have a very detailed room-mate agreement when he grows up, I can just see it!

Can you imagine two of them sharing? Dear lord!

DS1 would love the idea. He frequently tells me he never wants to go to school, ever again.

When I was selling the HE idea to ds, I typed up loads of pros and cons about what it would involve and cut them all up into strips, folded them up tombola-style and we went through them together - a sort of visual checklist of what was good and bad about it. I hadn't told him I was thinking of HE, just that I had 'an idea that might make us happy again' and this would help us decide. Almost everything ended up in the positives pile.

I think it's important that HE is a joint decision and not something that's imposed on the child, or it won't work. If they feel that they'd be missing out on more than they'd gain from HE they're less likely to settle into it. This worked for us but then school was Hell on earth for ds and there wasn't much he'd be sorry to leave behind. Not every child would feel the same way.

My ds only missed play times with his friends.
That was it.
He hated everything else and was made to feel really ashamed of his sen.
I think the only reason he went back to school was the social side of things tbh.

Ds didn't have any

:(
Ds had one bf and 2 or 3 others he would play with sometimes.
Far more bullies sadly....:(