MNSN is not a normal chat board. For many of us its a lifeline. From time to time we get a flurry of new posters through some media attention and it can be unsettling for those who bare their soul on here. Some of us have been spied upon on here eg by LA staff before a Tribunal. So we are a paranoid bunch. There are a lot of articulate, educated people on here, but I think thats a good thing and hope we use that to help others and its not elite. Even 'clever' parents need a support network. All the long standing posters on here spend a lot of time passing on advice to those who come behind. I can't imagine what it was like to navigate SN world 10 years ago before boards like this. It must have been very isolating.
Even those of us who you feel are not 'ordinary' have had to battle.
I still had to remortgage my house and go to tribunal to get adequate provision. I had to leave my career as a lawyer to be a carer. The nastiness of the LA to me personally pushed me close to a breakdown.
So I am ordinary here.
I can't see how articulate / educated parents sitting quietly by is going to help the less articulate / educated. I spent my career as a lawyer speaking up for those who could not speak up for themselves. Now I speak up for my son, and those like him, who due to severe language difficulties literally do not have a voice. We are not speaking out for our own self importance, we are doing it for the good of every child who needs more support. We want the law to be right for everyone, so others do not to have to go through what we did.
Its a LA myth that the problems with the SN system are due to sharp elbowed educated middle class parents hogging all the resources. LAs deliberately make the system as complex and legalistic as possible so that all but the most determined and affluent parents fail to jump the hurdles put in front of them. Even I had to buy in legal help to get through the process. If people on here can make a difference to those who come behind or find it more challenging we should. LAs like to create divisions between parents and try to make some feel guilty and others hard done by, it suits them for parents to be divided.
Truth is none of us will make much impact on our own. Thats why I started the thread because we are stronger together. Whatever our background, we've all ended up in the same place, so we may as well try and get along.
Sorry that sounds like a sermon and I'm not even religious. 