i know it's early but here's the FRIDAY NIGHT THREAD

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is free and in the fridge - help yourselves

peanuts and plain pasta over there on the trestle

blankets to hide under or wrap around

we're having a party chez U-C as DD has been offered a place at the lovely autism friendly school that is within walking distance!

HONK HONK HONK!!!

At 2 weeks DLA per successful form, it might just be worth it!

That's what I thought Ellen.

100% success rate here so far - have had plenty of practise

Need to find something to fill the days once I retire/take redundancy in 54 working day's time. (I can tell you the number of hours left if you want )

Early retirement? My Dbrother is counting down the days until he's 55, lucky sod. I shall be 68, if I live that long...

Yep - out at the tender age of 55.

Anyone want to employ this geriatric?

sorry haven't read posts, just hoping everyone had a better time of it than us.

devientenigma, sorry to hear you've had a hard week

I don't know if anyone remembers my thread about ds's awful physio session and the horrible occupational therapist...we have a meeting with her and the physio on Monday, so I am printing off the thread I started to have a read through and get myself in the right frame of mind to kick arse.

Hope everyone has good things planned for today.

I do, Hazey. Don't let her intimidate you, yo know your DS best and what will work for him. IIRC, the physio wasn't very impressed with the OT either?

can I come and sit in the group please?....lonely saddo here

I got a copy of the report for an assessment of 'needs' for my DS and myself from SW yesterday.... very It makes me sound like a terrible mother and my DS a disaster area and honestly sounds as though they could use it all against me and be deciding to remove him from my care...it reads so negative and awful...I'm feeling so defeated right now
My opinion about this is of course that perhaps my years of asking/fighting for support and help, fell on deaf ears and we have been left floundering in the 'system' and are now at this crisis with everything because of their lack of giving a shit before now.
It all seems to reflect so badly on me and paints such a dreadful picture of me as a mother....I could start to believe that my DS may be better off without me, which is how this report reads.
I'm trying not to feel paranoid but am feeling like this is all about to explode out of my hands.

If I was given to drinking...I'd have a large bottle of vodka and too many fags and big duvet to wrap myself in right now.....til Tuesday when maybe someone will be available to talk to about anything

As it is we are in pjs, DS on xbox and laptop and me on here with copious amounts of coffee and nicotine and getting through this time as best we can.

Told you I was a saddo! I'll just sit over here in the corner quietly

Bleep...
You are not a saddo!
Hope this week brings better for you x

Bleep, it sounds like you might need support on a separate thread. Not all of us post on the Fri thread every week to see and I think there are a number that have had similar experiences to you.

I'm feeling quite differently about the report now - 2 friends have now been round today to visit me.
They both agree that this report can only be of important assistance towards securing the specialist provision that my DS needs and the support that I need to manage within the whole situation.
They have both assured me that actually this report is a positive step towards securing things and getting the support that DS really needs.

Why do we all have to be at such crisis before anything is done for us...the system is so awful and always our children have to suffer so much as a result...the damage is so deep for them...we are heartbroken and always trying our best to pick up all the pieces...grieving and bereavement is a constant - and acceptance and the will power to keep going is a daily goal for us all.

Anyway, feeling a bit more empowered than I was.

just popped back in but didn't want to leave nahaudin's question un answered, ...I took lots of measurements and came back with ideas. and dh is def open to all the changes, , so chez sign should be under going some very sensible changes, (yay! )

thanks Hazey, managed to get DS to respite which is rare, he then attacked all kids and staff whilst there. They say there was no triggers, no change of facial expression, no change in body language etc and no remorse. They now think he is psychotic. I'm awaiting an incident report, a meeting, a new risk assessment and the behaviour team...............again.

dev

Oh, dev,

hooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooonk and thanks