i know it's early but here's the FRIDAY NIGHT THREAD

[UnChartered]

is free and in the fridge - help yourselves

peanuts and plain pasta over there on the trestle

blankets to hide under or wrap around

we're having a party chez U-C as DD has been offered a place at the lovely autism friendly school that is within walking distance!

HONK HONK HONK!!!

Overflowing

i understand how one constant pressure can affect you

DH were going to sit down and decide whether to refer ourselves to Social Care this weekend.

there are no support services AT ALL in our county, they are being 'restructured'.

it doesn't have to be so hard, there are people who should help, but they are so stretched they can't get involved until you are the loudest shouting. did you feel better on anti ds?

She's still hooked. It annoys me but it could be worse. I just have to make sure i have a stash of them.

I'm in bed trying snd failing to have s nsp before work. I want cake and crumble.

UnChartered hard to say re anti ds... felt better definitley the first time I had them... then not really much better second time and awful side effects (despite being same anti ds!) then maybe slightly better third time round (different anti d!)
In reality though I do believe if certain things in my life were different (less hard really!) then I would not feel how I do, so really is it depression, or just real life???then again I cant change somethings about my life, and my dc need a mum who can at least function...and right now I am SUCH a horrible stressed out shouty mum that I hate myself..so if anti ds took the edge off and numbed that it would be worth it for my dcs sake, no matter what the Side effects...

I am really so ashamed of what a HORRIBLE mum I have been to all my dc this week. I so never imagined I would turn into this monster. I just hate myself right now.

meant to say, sorry,dont know your story UC, but that sounds like a hard decision. Good luck with your discussions.

Does anyone else ever feel they let their special needs dc down? I just feel so awful sometimes. I shout at her for things I know she cant help. In my head I KNOW she cant do certrain things.... yet in the heat of the moment I get angry at her for not doing them .... and worse than that I shout sometimes and say horrible things.what must I be doing to her sel;f esteem? heaven knows her life is already hard enough. I really don't deserve to have my dc .... I do sometimes think they would all be better off without me.

uncharted silly girl fell off the kerb????
Thanks for gingerbread

Hi all, sorry to hear about crappy weeks... and Yippee re the new school..

Sign adds homemade chocolate fudge to the table...

It was fabby to meet up 3 members of the flock this week, (sign waves at zzz nahaudin and Tiredness) zzzz that sounds fab news for ds's learning,

dh is now home from his mums and having had a couple of bad falls today on the way home is very 'creaky' (and a bit cranky, ) but I have introduced the ideas I have had this week about how to make things easier at chez sign and he is open to them, so that is great.

Tried to read the thread and lost the plot a few posts in.

Fab news on the school place Unchartered.

2old, I am just as silly as your dd - I fell down a hole on the beach 5 weeks ago and still can't walk. Mum has insisted on dragging me back for more xrays after catching me crying in pain when I'd done two school runs on crutches this afternoon. (School is only across the road. )

Ds1 has been away on his residential all week, so I have been on pins. Got him back this afternoon, he's lost weight, looks totally knackered and hasn't had a shower for a week! He walked through the front door and collapsed in a sobbing heap, sobbing for an hour and a half. He was upset to leave the place, sad he'll never go back there etc, but has obviously been holding himself together and needed to get back on safe territory to 'let go'.

Dd started at the school nursery on Monday and was off sick today with a raging cold.

On top of all that we have had the builders in to do our front driveway, cue much disruption, mess and stress. They 'supposedly' finished this afternoon - but it's not right so they will have to come back again.

I'm back from Prague :) Flights were OK - seem to be getting better with flying yay! :)

Still trying to find a job, but will hopefully be volunteering at the local Citizens Advice soon. I've also been offered the chance to do my Level 2 AAT Accounting course, for free, starting in October. So I'm doing that :)

Ice hockey season starts for me on Sunday - woohoo!

Could someone please explain the honking thing to me??

Evening all. for those with good news and for those that have had a rough week. I'm in the camp mainly.
Had one night with only 2 hours sleep due to all the school problems going round in my head and was in a bit of a state by the time I got to work so had to go back home again. I'm beginning to feel paranoid about what the school is up to. Ds is gradually going back full time after they kept him part time for the whole of last year and they now have f/t funding so can't do this anymore. Ds saw EP this week though and was asked if he thought he was going back fulltime. Ds said that of course he was and then was asked if he thought he should go back if his behaviour was bad . EP said that it worked both ways which is implying that school are still trying to resist having him there. There is meant to be a meeting this month apparently but we've not been told the date and time yet...
Also a teacher made a really out of order remark. A girl asked her for some paperwork and she said 'oh, honestly, it's like teaching a class of special needs children. She then quickly said ' perhaps I shouldn't have said that' but went on to talk really slowly to the class . Ds was really upset but his TA said that she didn't mean it and that everyone was 'special'

Hi all!
Good news about the school place, Uncharted.
zzzzz glad Ds is willing to work at home. I always had a major battle to get DS to work for me, although the situation was forced on us rather than choice.
2old how long is dd going to be in plaster?

Sheela great that dd is going into school. Do you know why things have changed?

sign wasyour shopping trip successful? Good that Dh is open to change. (Not at all on the same scale I know but my Dh has been unable to drive for 5 years due to visual problems and he still hasn't applied for the bus pass he is entitled to.)

Moose sorry your foot is no better. Well done to your Ds for surviving the residential and I hope he is able to use the weekend to recover.

The highlight of my week was meeting up with zzzzz, sign and tiredness. I hardly ever meet anyone new and it was so relaxing just to be able to say how it is.
Not much else to report here. DD's new English teacher seems unaware that she is mildly dyslexic. She has come home with a list of spellings including 'courageous' and 'embarrassed' when she is still struggling with 'please' and 'desk'.
Letter to school needed I think.

I think that remark needs reporting tbh.
Shameful.
Ds1 has come home from school with star writer of the week again :)
Not bad considering this time last year he wasn't even using vowels!!
I have been on ads in the past - for late inset pnd - and it took a while to find one that worked for me. I am allergic to Prozac (fecking typical!) and citalopram just didn't do anything at all. The one that helped me was called zispin.
I was in it for 4 months. It really helped me.
The whole process is so degrading....so tiring, so hard, so upsetting...I just opted out.

My friends son was being sent home with spellings like "tomorrow" and he couldn't spell "and" :(
Took her 3 years of fighting to get him assessed -turns out he has DAMP. 3 years of them telling her he was naughty, lazy and "just not that clever"
Sigh.

I'll have a magnum, Imogen.
I had hoped things were working out for you, but obv not :(
Don't know what to say other than, feck them all.
Do what is right for your ds.

Yep.
What zzzz said.

I know what you're saying. What usually happens though is that they say that ds has 'misunderstood' or 'that wasn't what was said' but I'm not going to be putting up with it and will be speaking out about this. Ds is worried because she's also the form teacher and he doesn't want to upset her!!!

Hello everyone
I did my first post last week on this thread and you were all so nice that I thought I'd do it again!
My DD started pre-school on Monday and is settling in well. The staff have been fantastic. Have to admit though that I found it a bit a hard on the first day, because I could see the differences between her and the other children. It made me realise how all of her achievements are massive and I am so proud of her.
Hope you all have a lovely weekend.

moosemama DD is "pleased she is not the only one (not quite as erudite as that) 6-8 bloody weeks.
DS has decided his pain has returned why oh why is it at the W/E so I will up pain relief myself.
Hope you all have a peaceful weekend

Thank you zzzzz - you summed it up perfectly. Most of the time I try to stay positive and focus on the things that I can do on a practical basis - but sometimes I get a reality check.
PS - definitely more to life than the golf - as they say in these parts, it's a good walk spoiled.

Fab news, unchartered!

Glad there's still some wine left, too.

We have finally got a replacement livingroom door up - it's only taken 2 weeks.

If there's magnums going, I'll have one for my elbow, please.

All the week's painting and varnishing has left me with a horrible swollen elbow, frozen shoulder and locked fumb. Sodding HMS.

Fab news here too. My favourite fuckers friends have screwed up my Council Tax Bill so I now owe them about £250.

But.... they have admitted it's their fault and that they are considering writing it off!

I now have my letter of appeal prepared in case they decide I have to pay.

It was just like the good old days when I used to get home from work each night and fire off a letter to those fuckers in the LA. The old adrenalin was definitely flowing again

It felt quite purposeful again after too many months of things going too worringly well.

Also arranged hospital appointment for Monday (having missed the last one as I received the appointment letter 6 hours after the appointment!!

Wonder if I could get a new job as DLA form filler-inner? I'd quite like that